I am a single college educated mother of two with traditional ideas. I do not work I stay home and keep my children well rounded both doing great in school, although I do cleaning jobs to stay a float when necessary. I met a guy about four years ago. He makes plans with me and says he wants to get married. He lives in New Jersey and I in New York. He comes to visit me twice a month. I feel that by now we should have moved on a little but we are still in separate homes. I do have a very complicated past that he is aware of but he says he accepts it. Is he just taking me for a ride or is it possible he is just moving slow and cautious due to my past?