- Jan 22, 2004
I agree stepup that there are alot of black men out there that may not be ideal for marriage for different reasons. There are also tons of black women that are not ideal for marriage too. Alot of these women complaining are just that...not ideal for marriage. I also know that there are alot of brothas going virtually unseen to the black female eye because they don't look or act "black" enough. Alot of times these brothas turn to other races because it's either that or stay home waiting for a black woman to appreciate them. And I don't blame them. I think women have this idea that they know and dictate what a "good man" is. The reality is they don't. Like Toylin said, so many women judge a book by the cover and never take time to look inside and see what it's really about. Then they complain when they keep getting dogged by these guys that they thought were good men. We brothas do have to do a better job, but there are good men out there.