Black Relationships : Black Male Shortage - Myth or Reality?

Regina

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What are your views on the so called Black Male Shortage? How is the dating scene in your community?
 

Joyce

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Hi Regina

I can't comment on the dating scene, but I can offer some thoughts on the black male shortage. Personally, I don't think there is a shortage of black males, but there is a shortage of black available males. Many brothas do not want to commit. Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk free. As long as he is getting the "fringe" benefits of the relationship without commiting, where is the incentive to take it any further???

Here are just a few things that make black men less available but not necessarily in shortage...

1. Prison...often our brothas are incarcerated for longer periods
of time than others for the same crime. We might be suprised
how many are actually innocent of the crime commited, but
they couldn't afford a good lawyer to prove otherwise. For
example, last year, in Florida the the number of black males
in prison was higher than the number of black males in
Florida's population. To me, this is mind boggling.

2. Homosexuality...need I say more.

3. Another popular method of controlling our numbers other than imprisonment is the push for women's rights via a certain particular political party. Whiles white women rally for a woman's right to take her child's life, we more than they, take part in this act to our very own detriment.
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Abortion Incidence Among Blacks Minority women constitute only about 26% of the female population (age 15-44) in the United States, but they underwent approximatly 36% of the abortions. (Morbidity and mortality Weekly Report, U.S. Censuc Bureau, December 18, 1992, Centers for Disease Control).

This incidence of abortion has resulted in a tremendous loss of life. It has been estimated that since 1973 Black women have had about 10 million abortions. Michael Novak had calculated "Since the number of current living Blacks (in the U.S.) is 31 million, the missing 10 million represents an enourmous loss for, without abortion, America's black community would now number 41 milion persons. It would be 35 percent larger than it is currently. Abortion has swept through the Black community cutting down every fourth member. (Flight of Life's Priorities, Cal Thomas, Washington Times, April 1, 1993, p. G1, G4).

4. Homicide

5. Interracial relationships can not produce black males, moreover, it will always take a black woman and a black man to "produce" another black male or female.

There are more situations that affect the availibility of black males, but I is going to bed rat ni

:)
 

Regina

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Yes, the reasons you state are some of the main reasons there are less Black men available.

However, when there is quantity there isn't necessarily quality. This goes for both genders.

Men can definitely get what they want outside of a commitment. Women are at fault. A woman's body is a temple and shouldn't be used to manipulate a man into a commitment, nor be given freely.

Many men do not want to marry because of the high divorce rate. They state many women just want to get married just to be married, to be taken care of or to have children. The men are afraid of losing their assets in the case of a divorce.

The dating scene in the ATL (metro Atlanta) is what one makes of it. I hear a lot of women complain, but I haven't had a problem dating. The main thing here is pre-screening your dates. A man can pretend to be anything he wants to be to impress women. If a woman isn't impressed by the flash and looks beyond what she sees, it's okay.
 

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well their is a some what shortage to every male is at least 5
females and it get slimmer coz so many taken or not ready to
commit
 

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You said...
Men can definitely get what they want outside of a commitment. Women are at fault. A woman's body is a temple and shouldn't be used to manipulate a man into a commitment, nor be given freely.


Me say...

I agree, even the farmer can't get any milk if the cow doesn't give it. However, we (females) are not cows. We need love and therefore many of us will give sex to get it. I wish most of us were weak like dat, but oh well. Thumbs up to the sistas who know they are complete with or without a man.
 

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