hello to all, i am new and this is my first post and this is a topic that is very dear to myself. Before I begin my topic, let me say this: I LOVE BLACK MEN. I AM IN LOVE WITH BLACK MEN. ANYTHING THAT I SAY ABOUT OR IN DEFENSE OF BLACK MEN CMES FROM THE HEART. I am deeply concerned with the black male image. Over the years, it seems to deteriorate at a fast past rate. I wrote a paper back in when I was in school and I interviewed brothers of all ages and I did my research and I have come to find out that quite a few of us are buying into this "macho/beat a b*tch up/ type man. It seems like if a brother is laid back, he is considered slick and untrustworthy or in some cases, not man enough because the thug in him is not evident. why do we have to buy into these pre-selected tyoes of behaviors to choose from?