In my studies of pre-Colonial African societies I find that the majority of societies were basically matrilinial. Patrilinial societies seem to have developed as outside influeces, such as Islam, changed the internal dynamic of pre-colonial Africa. As Europeans invaded and established forts and missionaries, many African families were destroyed and an imbalance occured as women and men were brutalized and subjected to not only the slave trade but a forced Christian patriarchy as missionaries developed settlements in Africa. So this is what I am contemplating. To what degree does a "natural order" occur in present "Black America" where most households in the Black community are headed by women? Is this the "natural order of things" since our ancestral roots are basically matrilinial? Sometimes it just seems to me that a lot of debate concerning the lack of available black men which often devoloves into negative stereotyping lacks perspective of how our ancestors lived and organized their societies before African colonization. More to the point, it seems as if many of us ourselves have developed a mindset which seeks to affirm and reinfore the very same system of patriarchy which was responsible for the destruction of our very own civilizations. Peace!