- May 22, 2014
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The question is simple, sistahs could you ever have a relationship with a bisexual brotha?
My intentions with this thread was to ask this question then follow up with another question to address a larger issue within our community. Now obviously it work out the way I did in my mind so I'm going to do this over...
Now what inspired me to bring up this subject was a conversation I had with a friend of mine (a stud/dom) and her brother (a feminine boy/transgender), which got me thinking about a lot that I've personally seen in the past but never gave thought too until now.
And the reason im talking about bisexuality instead of homosexuality is because I'm referring to people out here who like girls but mess with dudes discreetly. And living in the Washington DC-Baltimore area I see this a lot, especially among the youth (25 and younger). After speaking with my friend and her brother, my eyes have really opened to alotta things, I'm not going to get into the explicit details of the conversation but I'll let these statistics do the talking:
http://www.childsafeeducation.com/statistics.html
http://www.bcaci.org/get_help/signs_of_abuse
I feel like this is something that seriously needs to be discussed when we talk about homosexuality/bisexuality in our community. Especially when we hear people like Dr Frances Cress Welsing talk about the effeminization of the black male and so on. Well it has a root cause, I get tired of hearing people say "it's something in the air" when discussing the youth (25 and younger, which would include me ).
And when I talked to females about what I was talking about, which is why I asked the sistahs on destee the question, they was just flat out like "oh naw them ****** is down low faggies **** all that lol" even when I broke it down to them that some of these dudes are victims it just seems no matter the circumstances they just can't handle the fact that the dude they're messing with ever having done anything with another male.
That puts these dudes in a position where they have constantly live with secrets/burdens/demons they can never shake or get rid of because if they open up about it, to a person they assume cares about them, they'll have to worry about being abandoned instead of receiving the emotional support they need to face/deal with their past. And I can say from personal experience that when you keep negative things inside they manifest on the outside in negative ways. Using myself as an example, without being detailed and too personal, my family situation was messed up and made me abandoned. Being out in the streets I got developed some bad habits (drinking them four lokos, popping pills, I smoked too but pills was my thing) I was out here living reckless mainly because I was dealing with demons that I couldn't let go, so I know that these brothers who were corrupted at impressionable ages are facing similar denons (if they didn't become gay).
So I'm hoping to talk about this issue and hope something good comes out it, especially a way that we can help these brothers straighten their lives out.
[I am using the term bisexual the same way my female friends used it. Meaning, not necessarily one who actively has sex with both sexes, but as a man who has ever done anything gay - willingly or unwillingly - period.]
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