What do you guys think are the biggest obstacles that deter black men and women from getting together and staying together? I think that black women have been scarred by the absence of the black man in the upbringing of their children. Dont get me wrong, I know that there are many black men that are handling their business with their kids, but the fact still remains that there is a majority of our black children being raised in single parent homes. When black women are forced to become a father and a mother, does it created hostility towards men? Does it make it more difficult for other men to establish a relationship with her? Our black men are still struggling to find our identity in this white man's world. Neglect from our own fathers, and no positive role models to show us how to treat a woman prevents us from relating to the sensitivities of women. Certainly not all, but many black men cannot thrive in a relationship because the weight of the world is damaging to the state of mind. The lack of resources and the thought that "knowlege doesnt pay bills" makes personal growth difficult. This leads to poor descisions and devastating consequences that are handed down from generation to generation. Any opinions?