Black Relationships : Best Friend Came Out To Me and Want's to go on a date....

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  1. serenti-poet

    serenti-poet Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Okay me and my friend been friends since what 14 I think maybe 15 and recently she told me she is a lesbian. Okay I'm cool with this bein I'm not goin say use to be one, I shall say I have had my experiences, but overall and final I luv men and men only.
    Well newayz she tells me all this time she has luved me and she thought I've felt the same and I surely I have not. Some how and some way she thinks I have tho. She asked me out on a date at her house and the way she's talking she expects something to happen. now I luv my friend like a twin sister like any sister and I wouldn't give up our friendship for nothin at all, but I don't know how to tell her I'm not feelin her that way, and most likely never will. She is very sensitive and has known to be suicidal and now I know why. I am having trouble telling her and the date is tommorrow if it happens at all, I need ya'll help and like NOW! thanks ya'll in advance :kiss:
     
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    if y'all best friendz and u don't get down like that
    the best way is to be open yes it may hurt a little
    but it's not what u say but how u say it...............
    being honest is the key let her know you really care as friendz
    but to have a relationship u just don't get down like that
    as far as a date if you go then you are misleading her on
    a date is a no no !!
    u can stop this madness before it go to far by telling her in a
    gentle way but asure her that y'all friendship is all good
    but to love this way is not your style and right now you are seeking this guy or something
    GOOD LUCK on a journey of peace & respect
     
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    serenti-poet, sorry for responding to you so late but I hope I'm in time before your date with your friend.

    I agree with Rich, if you and she have been friends for a long time then there is a way to tell her how you really feel and not leave her so shattered emotionally. But since you wrote that she's known to be suicidal, that sends up a red flag and I would suggest that you approach this very delicately. You might want to seek some professional advice before you do anything. To stall her, think of something to say to put her off until you can get the advice you need to let her know your true feelings and to help her remain somewhat stable.

    A lot of cities have a 24-hour suicide crisis hotline that you can call to get some advice. There may also be a lesbian support group in the area that could also help. Look in the telephone directory or contact a local women's center to try and locate these community resources. It sounds like this could potentially be a serious matter and not to be taken lightly.

    Best of luck and let us know how things turn out!
     
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    yes NNQ your ever so right .........please let us know how it
    turn out .......this is something you can't take lightly
     
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    Okay thanks both of ya'll for giving me ya'll wonderful advice, I am suppose to meet her tonight at 7 p.m., earlier on the phone she told me she will understand whatever decision I make however I am still worried, I do in fact have the sucidal crisis hotline number but I am not so sure to give it to her right away because she might get the wrong impression and think I am jumping to conclusions. I plan to talk to her and explain my feelings, in a easy and delicate way, and hear her out, right now that's all I can do, but I will keep ya'll in touch with what happens. and thanks again ya'll for being there.
     
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    any time we can help our love and heart is here to share
    and comfort and many other seasons
    ur most welcome sista Queen
     
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    Hello All,

    Serenti, I would like to know if everything went ok. If you need any help Hotlines in the Atlanta area please let me know. I've worked with a few people in the past and I can get you those numbers as quickly as I can. May your days be blessed.
     
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    Hello All,

    Serenti, I would like to know if everything went ok. If you need any help Hotlines in the Atlanta area please let me know. I've worked with a few people in the past and I can get you those numbers as quickly as I can. May your days be blessed.
     
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    Picasso, that was a supportive gesture on your part. Thank you for responding to serenti's request for advice. Let's hope that things went well between her and her friend. We await the news.
     
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    Everything went okay ya'll, I don't have time right now but I plan on telling ya'll what happened, thank you to ALL of ya'll, ya'll helped alot. :kiss: peace and blessins :):):):)
     
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