Black Relationships : Because i dont speak the intelectual language

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  1. LibertyLady

    LibertyLady Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Hi brothers and sisters...


    i have this little problem..


    because i dont (choose) speak the intelectual language ...



    People Somethimes dont take me serius ...

    or listen to me...

    or see me as a little ....

    low...


    Plus because i most of the time kind and forgivable
    they see that as less.....
    and they think ...
    "
    well she forgives...


    so i can maybe pull a stunt again..."

    I makes them feel secure comvertable...
    knowing that there will always be someone who will care for you...



    i experiance this with a lot of people around me..


    (believe me i can bark to i can get angry to
    real angry.....
    .........i am a human)




    So what should i do..


    stay myself...


    or turn into this intelectual talking :hulk:

    on other for them to hear me..


    or should i just leave and and think...




    ok ....

    you dont want to hear me....



    than not....
     
  2. kente417mojo

    kente417mojo Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Don't stop being the beautiful person you are. You're not the problem, it's the people around you that are taking you for granted. Surround yourself with people that are as kind as you are, and forget about those other idiots. :peace:
     
  3. LibertyLady

    LibertyLady Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Like yOUUUUU!



    you brought a smile on my face.....(thank you kente :heart: thanks lord for the sheep on this moment who spoke to me)



    Yes youre right ......


    why should i hang out with people who dont apriciate me...
    or already have this prejudgement of me...and just keep me there


    you know i think i forgot that point of love youre brothers and sisters

    "'' as yourself"' that point.....








    Lovelibertylady:heart:
     
  4. kente417mojo

    kente417mojo Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Yes...like me

    Exactly. You're worth more than that. The moment you're not there, that's when they'll start appreciating you.
     
  5. PurpleMoons

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    I think we all experienced this at one time or another. I too have this problem often. It so easy to say that you'll avoid people like that, but these type of people are all around you. Some of them are you own blood relatives. What I am learning to do is voice how I feel. Sometimes you just got to let them know.

    If they still display the same behavior, then I stay away from them. I'll still say hello, but thats as far as it will go. I just keep it moving. Loving someone as yourself isn't so easy. exspecially when they don't initiate the same things as you do.


    Don't every stop being you Sis! You are truly a beautiful soul!!!
     
  6. LibertyLady

    LibertyLady Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    and you are beautifully to ! :luvv:



    if you dont stop you being you

    and i wont stop me being me (but of course we grow)

    than we have two sisters who still can laugh about ..

    those two icons sitting in learning in class...




    :kick: hey watch ....


    we might miss something...



    lol











    Lovelibertylady:heart:
     
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    Sistah Liberty:

    I am in a terrible state of mind right now, so I will only say this:

    DO NOT CHANGE FOR ANYONE BUT YOURSELF. MAYBE THEY WILL GO BACK INTO THEIR OWN SPACE, AND LEARN HOW TO APPRECIATE PEOPLE LIKE YOU.

    CD
     
  8. watzinaname

    watzinaname Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I think you can speak up more for yourself, and still be you. Just speak your mind, it doesn't have to be mean, to let your feelings be known. And to the ones that still don't act right, those you can avoid, avoid them. Those you can't avoid, realize that you are not the problem, they are.
     
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