Okay I usually don't put my business out there because I'm really private but I do have a question for the brothas and the sistas if they choose to get involved. Am a devil or an angel? So I started talking to this sista a minute ago - we were vibing at first but then all of the sudden I lost interest and I can't see her the way that I saw her at first. Now with this being said, in my opinion she's not the best looking sista, but she's kind and doesn't go out of her way to cause funk with anyone. To sum her up she's extremely quite but more importantly she simply kind. Now I'm a black power brotha, sista sista sista I'm about my sista, yet I'm ready to move on but at the same time I feel horribly bad if I do. The problem is I have the hardest time leaving her because of her kindness - yet I'm not vibing with her which makes it a bad situation for me. Its like I have to sacrifice my happiness to maintain hers. Let me get to the point and I hope this doesn't sound arrogant - I'm just explaining my situation. So when I got with her I was making 5 figures and now I'm in the 6 figures yearly and hope to be making 7 within the next few years. She was with me during the struggle and the transition - mind you she's as kind as she wants to be. During this process - she started out as this ambitious woman who had goals but now she spends spends and spend. She doesn't have my children, she doesn't want to have children, her son is the same age as my oldest - which I can understand but - I like to know that having kids can still be an option. She settled in her job. She was going to school to finish her law degree but then it came to an immediate holt. Now she's abandon that vision and she sits and spend my money. I mean I gave her a CC .. thinking that she would be modest but that flew out the window months ago. So now I'm checking my accounts 3 to 4 times a day to make sure she's not blowing me up. I mean - I don't want to leave her for some white women or any other color woman outside of my race - I'm black and my woman will DEFINITELY BE THE SAME IF NOT DARKER THEN ME!!! AND I'M BLACK! The thing is - I'm worried about hearing the: 1.) I was there when you were getting it going and now your going to leave? 2.)Why don't you love me anymore - which love is a hella of a word. 3 and most importantly) What did I do to you that you would want to leave me? That's a hard shot because her kindness is gold yet I'm just not vibing like that - so I'm asking am I the Devil or an Angel if I leave this woman. I know I should know especially with all of the conversations I've gotten into over the years but when your in it your in it and because I'm so faithful which is something I picked up from being married for 14 years - I'm seriously stuck.