Black Relationships : Background Check: Before getting seriously involved

[Bootzey]

Our grand parents didn't have to contend with what we have to contend with. My grand parents were born at the turn of the century and never had credit cards. My grandmother was a SAHM and my grandfather conducted his business in cash. What would a backgound check turn up on them?

 

[$$RICH$$]

Not likely , i wouldn't do one less it was warrent for one !
I think if you go into a relationship slowly and right / honest and respectful
there would be no need to take your mate through the very system that is
keeping us down / out and broken.

 

[HyperKill]

I was recently talking to a gentleman and he said that in his previous marriage he got married to a woman, they had been married 2 years.

One day he noticed that the court house was calling on the caller ID. His wife answered the phone and had walked off into the other room. He got suspicious as to why the courts would be calling his house.

When he confronted her about it she broke out and told him she had a felony for embezzling $100,000, and that it was her probation officer calling.

That's when he realized she had been taking money out of there savings account to pay off her fines, with out telling him.

And she had been constantly taking money out and not telling him what was going on. Ultimately they got a divorce.

Well, he told me that he wanted to do a background check on the next person he dated.

Would you do a background check on someone before you got seriously involved?

Shoulda got seperate accounts. I learn that th hard way. Poor girl=( was poor.

 

[Gorilla]

No and I wouldn't ask for one because there's no real point. They don't offer anything in the way of security and they don't predict future behavior. It'll just lull people into a false sense of security like the theatre show at the airports conducted by the TSA. It won't minimize the risk of a false negative in regards to whether or not the person is a "good" person.