Black Relationships : Background Check: Before getting seriously involved

[KWABENA]

I have a small problem with this.

We learn that the Creator / God blesses us with the mates that we have (or should be with). Why and how is it that we are doing background checks on the very people the Lord blesses us with? Either we are following the Creator, or we are going about our lonesome choosing mates so as to show we do not completely trust that the Creator made the right choice for us. I highly feel that the latter is the case.

I close by saying it is sad we have to go this far today, as if marrying isn't hard enough already. Did our parents for grandparents do background checks on each other?

KWABENA

 

[MsInterpret]

I have a small problem with this.

We learn that the Creator / God blesses us with the mates that we have (or should be with). Why and how is it that we are doing background checks on the very people the Lord blesses us with? Either we are following the Creator, or we are going about our lonesome choosing mates so as to show we do not completely trust that the Creator made the right choice for us. I highly feel that the latter is the case.

I close by saying it is sad we have to go this far today, as if marrying isn't hard enough already. Did our parents for grandparents do background checks on each other?

KWABENA

Not everything is from the lord. If you believe this than you must believe in Satan. And if you believe in Satan you know he his a trickster and also gives too. Not every person who comes in our lives is a blessing.

 

[KWABENA]

Not everything is from the lord. If you believe this than you must believe in Satan. And if you believe in Satan you know he his a trickster and also gives too. Not every person who comes in our lives is a blessing.

To be honest, I don't believe in it, and I also don't believe it is Satan picking and choosing for us. No matter how you put it, that does not explain how and why we have to go this far just to ensure we have the right mate. What ever happened to using our own intuition and inner vibes?

KWABENA

 

[MsInterpret]

To be honest, I don't believe in it, and I also don't believe it is Satan picking and choosing for us. No matter how you put it, that does not explain how and why we have to go this far just to ensure we have the right mate. What ever happened to using our own intuition and inner vibes?

KWABENA

I agree with the whole vibes thing, but some people are soooo sneaky.

Do you also not agree with getting someone tested for an STD?

 

[Precise Allah]

I have a small problem with this.

We learn that the Creator / God blesses us with the mates that we have (or should be with). Why and how is it that we are doing background checks on the very people the Lord blesses us with? Either we are following the Creator, or we are going about our lonesome choosing mates so as to show we do not completely trust that the Creator made the right choice for us. I highly feel that the latter is the case.

I close by saying it is sad we have to go this far today, as if marrying isn't hard enough already. Did our parents for grandparents do background checks on each other?

KWABENA

Peace,

Desperate times call for desperate measures. If in fact males and females took responsibility for there actions then there wouldn't be such drastic need to protect self. This however is not the case across the board. You have folks from all walks of life who have no moral grounding whatsoever. For these people the next person they get with is just a mark for their next score. They're not always gonna come off that way though. Some of them can be quite elaborate with their lies and for those people you gonna have to do some digging to find out the depth of their game. I'm also saddened how things have turned out, yet we should be aware by now that the enemy has gone through great lengths to destroy anything that looks like a family in the black community. Insuring the safety of our babies and youth is one step in us getting ourselves together. I don't really understand why it's a negative (considering the mental state of our people) asking someone to show and prove that they are who they say they are, or taking it a step further by checking them out yourself.

Was our grandparents bombarded by the constant images of black baffoonery we have today? In my grandparents day the enemy treated us just like they wanted to, overtly. Now with this new age stuff they took it underground....... smile in your face and call you names, and treat you bad behind the back.

Peace
Precise