Greetings Sisters and Brothers, I’m new here and very happy that I have found this forum for my people created by my people (Thank you Destee. I look forward to hearing a lot more of your views and thoughts from here on….. OK the thing that has been on my mind for a while now is the “Baby Mother and Father” issue. Why in many cases, does each gender in the situation try to hold onto the mother or father of their child even though they no longer wish to have a relationship, yet do not wish for their ex partner to have a relationship with anyone else? If you do not want your man or woman why not let them go on to be happier with someone else? Is there still a flame there that needs putting out before either can move on? If so, why not just deal with it up front and stop – what seems to be - messing each other around? Why do these people put themselves through the hell of trying to maintain their relationship if neither is happy with each other? Yes you have children and you will always have that connection between you. That will never change! Could it be that because the two have been intimate that by staying vaguely together gives them some sort of freedom pass to have intercourse as and when they please, because they’ve “been there” before? I don’t know it just seems like a lot of wasted time and energy that causes more hurt and bitterness than is necessary. Also, the title Baby Mother and Father seems to have become a very loose term now in the way that it’s used. I know that using these words is supposed to be a way of showing respect for the part each other has played in bringing the child/ren into this world, but if you respect your other half so much, why is it that person not your Wife or Husband, your Queen or King, your Godess or God??? What are your thoughts and experiences with this one?