Black Relationships : asking "'how are you "?out of politeness or do you realy want to know..

[LibertyLady]

Hi fam



i was wondering cause i withnessed someone asking.....to another how are you doing?

and that person said ....well ok but i have some problems with my job and my wive....

and that other person responded.....


well thats sad....and than he swiched the topic...

i thought mmm....

And so i ask him ...If the man with the problem of the work and job ...
wanted to talk about it..

and he said ...

Please....



I kinda noticed that people are not Real with eachother....anymore.
It doesnt mean we have to share everything...
And of course we dont always have the time to listen on that moment..
but


when you ask some one "'how are you doing ...."' are you realy interested in that person of how it is doing..? good or bad or in the middle...



I mean if i ask someone ..."'how are you doing "'
i realy want to know...





If some one is asking me "'how am i doing ""
bet ya i,m going to tell you how i,m doing...

You can always say...

Good .......but i dont wanne talk about it...
bad .........but i dont wanne talk about it..
ok ..........i wanne talk about it.....
horrible ..i dont wanne talk about it now..

or


just start talking how you are doing..


One time i came in a chat and in a real room i mean it was in a place where people were (you know face to face)and i talked with someone and ask how that person was doing...
and it said "'good"'
that person didnt talk or shared anything...
so i started to talk...

than 10 minutes later it said..

sumthing about people never listen to him...
and that here she/he finds himself listening to others...

than i said but i asked you how you were doing..


you didnt say anything or told sumthing about yourself...
so that why i started to tell....



What i wanted to say...

is that people realy dont express...
they often dont tell how they really feel....
or what is realy going on.inside....
Some people are to much ashamed of their deepest emotions..
and are going trough some deep pain...
And we all wonder why there is so much disorder and violens and stuff..

well it all starts in our hearts....
that is were the devil is taking its visits...

And you know maybe a little honest conversation with youre self or an other...
can change an whole invioriment....


I mean i know that we all are different and come from different experiances
and that that differances makes us beautifull..
And we dont always have the time to listen on that moment...No one will blame you for that .....besides there will be maybe an other sheep that has the time to listen to the person that just wants to talk or express
but we may another time..



but ask yourself

when you ask someone...



"'How are you doing "?



do you realy want to know...


or is it out of politness..








Lovelibertylady

 

[daroc]

i wanna kno but- i dont want ot turn into they psychiatrist... expecially if i dont kno them like that...

 

[panafrica]

It depends on how well you know a person, but many times it is used more as a greeting.

 

[$$RICH$$]

when i ask i wanted to know but mostly in a greeting way or speaking
but many time i do have the ear to listen intently when it's a friend but
to just be asking how a person is in a greeting not to get into there personal
life or emotions , some time you can get into something you might not want
to hear or know .