Black Relationships : asking "'how are you "?out of politeness or do you realy want to know..

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  1. LibertyLady

    LibertyLady Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Hi fam:heart:



    i was wondering cause i withnessed someone asking.....to another how are you doing?

    and that person said ....well ok but i have some problems with my job and my wive....

    and that other person responded.....


    well thats sad....and than he swiched the topic...

    i thought mmm....

    And so i ask him ...If the man with the problem of the work and job ...
    wanted to talk about it..

    and he said ...

    Please....



    I kinda noticed that people are not Real with eachother....anymore.
    It doesnt mean we have to share everything...
    And of course we dont always have the time to listen on that moment..
    but


    when you ask some one "'how are you doing ...."' are you realy interested in that person of how it is doing..? good or bad or in the middle...



    I mean if i ask someone ..."'how are you doing "'
    i realy want to know...





    If some one is asking me "'how am i doing ""
    bet ya i,m going to tell you how i,m doing...

    You can always say...

    Good .......but i dont wanne talk about it...
    bad .........but i dont wanne talk about it..
    ok ..........i wanne talk about it.....
    horrible ..i dont wanne talk about it now..

    or


    just start talking how you are doing..


    One time i came in a chat and in a real room i mean it was in a place where people were (you know face to face)and i talked with someone and ask how that person was doing...
    and it said "'good"'
    that person didnt talk or shared anything...
    so i started to talk...

    than 10 minutes later it said..

    sumthing about people never listen to him...
    and that here she/he finds himself listening to others...

    than i said but i asked you how you were doing..


    you didnt say anything or told sumthing about yourself...
    so that why i started to tell....



    What i wanted to say...

    is that people realy dont express...
    they often dont tell how they really feel....
    or what is realy going on.inside....
    Some people are to much ashamed of their deepest emotions..
    and are going trough some deep pain...
    And we all wonder why there is so much disorder and violens and stuff..

    well it all starts in our hearts....
    that is were the devil is taking its visits...

    And you know maybe a little honest conversation with youre self or an other...
    can change an whole invioriment....


    I mean i know that we all are different and come from different experiances
    and that that differances makes us beautifull..
    And we dont always have the time to listen on that moment...No one will blame you for that .....besides there will be maybe an other sheep that has the time to listen to the person that just wants to talk or express
    but we may another time..



    but ask yourself

    when you ask someone...



    "'How are you doing "?



    do you realy want to know...


    or is it out of politness..








    Lovelibertylady:heart:
     
  2. daroc

    daroc Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    i wanna kno but- i dont want ot turn into they psychiatrist... expecially if i dont kno them like that...
     
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    panafrica Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    It depends on how well you know a person, but many times it is used more as a greeting.
     
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    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    when i ask i wanted to know but mostly in a greeting way or speaking
    but many time i do have the ear to listen intently when it's a friend but
    to just be asking how a person is in a greeting not to get into there personal
    life or emotions , some time you can get into something you might not want
    to hear or know .
     
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