Black Men : as men..

Discussion in 'Black Men - Fathers - Brothers - Sons' started by skuderjaymes, Sep 6, 2010.

  1. skuderjaymes

    skuderjaymes Contextualizer Synthesizer MEMBER

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    We, as men, have to begin to choose our mates carefully.. not for the size of
    her butt.. or the texture of her hair.. or for how cute she is.. but for the
    content of her character.. of her spirit.. for the strength of her family.. for
    what she can bring to the things we have to do in this life..
     
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    I agree totally!!!


    Yet why can't we find that in a big butt, pretty face and all of the characteristics that you named? In a way it almost seems kind of bias on our part as men to think that women without such qualities are more likely to have the true characteristics that make a woman a true woman. Its like the big butt and pretty face are automatically put in a category of man candy when in reality many of them have the qualities that we are actually looking for as well.

    Is it a crime for a woman to be fine - and have we prejudge a woman because shes all that and a bag of chips physically which causes us to not see the true beauty that she possess? I know some women who I don't consider attractive that have the worst type(s) of attitudes. Home training is home training fine or not - and as you have said - its really our responsibility to find the right woman despite of the size of her butt or facial features though they would be nice to have as well :qqb015:.

    Peace


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    The Right Mate

    Have you found the right mate, skuderjaymes? Your post is laced with discontent.
     
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    I couldn't agree more , we have to not rush and choose carefully
    while we understand a woman worth is priceless and worthy of having
    she will need to meet the same goals in order for the relationship to be fruitful
     
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    I hear that.. all I'm saying is to remove those attributes from the list of
    important things.. and allow them to become simply details.. like the lines on
    her palm.. nothing more. Of course that's hard as hell to do.. and that's the
    reason why I brought it up.. the biological is really hard to overcome.. you
    combine that with pure willingness on her part.. and you have yourself a real battle
    between physical instinct and social intelligence.. ​
     
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    People have to look down the road,unfortunately this is a trap that many of us fall into and we don't see this most of the time until we are up in age. It's a learning thing,I know it was for me.

    Peace!
     
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    In NYC you can have all 6, in a sister you meet,
    and it's been like that as long as I can remember

    and today
    with the ratio of women to men
    counting the number of brothers unemployed
    the number of brothers bisexual
    the number of brothers incarcerated
    the number of brothers on alcohol or drugs
    the number of brothers with hand trouble

    that makes the odds 12 to 1


    One would be amazed about how many drop dead gorgeous sisters there are out there who are just as beautiful and cosncientious about the race on the inside, but are lonely cause brothers are scared or intimidated to approach them!
     
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    water, water, every where and not a drop to drink........:10500:
     
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    the Bible says each man should have his own cistern

    that way he will never go thirsty