Black Women : Are You Pretty with no Makeup, Weave, Wig, Perm ?

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Are You Pretty with no Makeup, Weave, Wig, Perm ?

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  1. Destee

    Destee destee.com STAFF

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    Peace and Blessings Sisters,

    I was browsing the web and found this article, Beyonce's Wig Malfunctioned, and it made me wonder how this poll would go ...

    Do you consider yourself pretty ... with no makeup, weave, wig, or perm ... pretty in the naked beauty that God gave you?

    Do you consider yourself pretty then ... with none of the extra stuff added on?

    I do think i'm pretty like that! :D ... i mean, i gotta comb my naps out and stuff, make sure everything is all lotioned up ... but yes ... i do think i'm pretty with none of that stuff and ... i rarely wear any of it. I think the last time i had makeup on (anything more than lipstick), was my daughter's graduation in May ... and then i had some mascara and eyeliner too. Don't misunderstand me yall, i aint no Beyonce (by any stretch of the imagination), but i think i'm pretty the way God made me, and i live this truth every day. I useta do the props all the time, so it's been a journey, my getting here ... but i am here now! :D ... and yes yes yes ... i think i'm pretty without ANY of that stuff! Yall feel me?

    This also makes me think of something else too Sisters.

    The whole plastic surgery industry! Oh My Gosh! Look at the hype that is being put into not wanting folk to love their own selves, the way God made them! This is almost sinful! Folk so nonchalantly changing and disliking what God gave. I'm talking, the stuff that is straight from God!

    Reminds me of my ... Little Black Girls Are Ugly ... thread.

    Anyway ...

    Are you pretty when you have no make up, no weave, no perm, no wig, no none of that stuff?

    Do you spend time with yourself, without those things?

    Do you let others see you, without those things?

    Do you even know your own self, without those things?

    Please vote in the poll above, and share your thoughts below.

    Much Love and Peace.

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    Destee
     
  2. cursed heart

    cursed heart Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    If you have a pretty face you can wear just about any hair style.
    The difference with me is when I don't wear make-up I look 17.
    The make-up gives me a more mature look.
    I have a pretty baby face so I try not to add too much.
    My mother and ex-boyfriends use to tell me I looked like a baby.
    That burns me up sometimes because I'm 30 !
     
  3. Destee

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    Sister Cursed Heart ... thanks for responding, but trust me, looking young is a wonderful thing! You may be lamenting it now, but you will come to Thank God for that one quality alone, as you are blessed to see the years pass by! :)

    You know what yall ... since i've been wearing my hair natural, i look at those who don't in a whole different way. Oh gosh, i'm becoming jaded! :eeek: Not real jaded, like hating on other folk for being in the same place i was, or those in the process of their own personal journey to find and love their own selves ... nothing like that ... but jaded in the sense ... that i wonder, when i see Black women on television or in magazines, with their permed, bone straight hair ... i wonder ... do they feel fake at all? Do they realize that none of that "beauty" would be there, if they didn't alter themselves to get it? They probably don't, i know i never did, which is really amazing. I could never see any of this, while i was in it (wearing my hair permed), never even hardly thought on it.

    I sometimes think ... we are such a fake people ... pretending our hair aint really nappy ... and yes, me too ... smh.

    Reminds me of a thread i started, Worshipping False Idols.

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  4. Riada

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    No, Destee, I don't "feel" pretty without lipstick. I never go outside where anyone can see me without at least a little lipstick on. My face just seems gray and colorless without it. Now, I know I have plenty of color in my skin, but my face just seems so blah without a little lipstick. I rarely wear facial makeup and never wear mascara, wigs, weave, or anything like that. I've been told by men that I'm pretty without anything on my face, but I don't believe them.
     
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    I don't wear make-up ,ever, except for the rare occasion where I may slide on a lil lipstick since my lips are "pinkish", but cute... a trait that "you know who" has a patent on :lol: I have a natural coloration to my eyelids that give the illusion of maroonish eyeshadow, and red undertones that make the use of Blush obsolete. If I did wear makeup, it would take away from my flushed complexion, and even it out, which would take away the "illuminance", making me appear "dull".

    As far as hair, I can do without all the weave; relaxers; and wigs, and do look better natural. However, with a longer face, I feel that longer hair suits my face structure, be it natural or straight. I've learned to beautify myself without all the extras. I figure if I can ace the natural look... imagine what I can do with the "extras". I love being natural, that way my sweetheart can run his fingers through my hair, and caress my skin without Brown smudges afterwards. Leaves a lot of room for fun, like going swimming spur of the moment, etc.

    I :heart: me:)

    As far as celebrities "faking it"; I always figured they had to appease their fanbase by altering their look to suit every one's liking. I never really understood ordinary women who do it ALL the time. Maybe they like it*shrugs*. I usually see the celebs in the tabloids looking plain with ordinary clothes on...some of them look a hot mess LOL. At least they strip the costume while offstage.

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  6. Destee

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    Sister Riada ... awwwwww @ you don't believe them ... :( ... Sister Sister Sister ... seeeeeeeeeeeee ... that's what i'm saying !!! ... you gotta believe it ... you gotta see it ... even if don't nobodee else see it ... you gotta see it Sister ... how can you think others are pretty, if you don't feel pretty in all your glorious wonderfulness that God blessed you with ... then something is wrong ... i mean, i'm just say'n ... you gotta think it ... gotta gotta gotta !!! ... so just go on and move your mind in that direction ... it's a process, but Gurl one day you gonna be look'n in that mirror with no lipstick or nuth'n and say'n ... Yes Lawd!! ... i iz and feels oh so very pretty !!! :D

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    Sister Spicy ... thanks for responding, and i agree. If we can pull off being natural, and still feel pretty ... c'mon now, it really can't get any better than that! It's like the standard of beauty has moved to the far fake, while the far real, is considered ugly. What if pretty was determined by one's NATURAL appearance. Just out of the bed. Sisters would win hands down, because we have the bestestest stuff! We have the most beautiful skin. We have the most beautiful hair, the strongest, the only that grows up to the heavens, creating a crown on our head ... right out of the bed!

    I never wore much make-up either ... even the word ... make up ... fake ... pretend ... even the word says it ... yet we miss the significance of it ... hmmmm ... anyway ... as i said, i never wore much make-up ... and i never wore the foundation stuff because i would see it on other Sisters and the difference in the color of their face ... from their face to their neck ... where they stopped applying the make-up ... that place right there ... you could always see the difference in her real color, and the color of the make-up! I thot ... *sigh* ... nawww, i won't do that ... plus ... you see it all over their clothes too ... their shirt collar i mean ... just messiness to keep up with, in my opinion, that i never was interested in.

    **correction** ... wait wait wait ... i did wear foundation before ... years ago, for a short period ... and i am remembering the withdrawal from it ... how i'd become accustomed to seeing my face in that "made-up" way, and when i didn't have the make-up on ... whew Lawd! ... where is that make-up?!!? When i saw this, along with the above, i realized that wearing foundation was also quite addictive ... i forced myself to stop wearing that stuff ... because i didn't like me without it! Okay ... sorry about the wrong information above ... i have wore foundation before.

    Yes Sister Spicy ... we must :heart: me ... totally and completely, as God made us.

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  8. Riada

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    Destee, I don't think that a woman HAS to be pretty in order to have good self esteem or have a wonderful man like I have. I don't think I've missed anything by having a blah colorless looking face.:lol: I've always gotten enough attention from men, and I have high self esteem, so I don't feel I've missed anything.

    I do think that some women are very pretty, but everybody can't be pretty.
     
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    Good question. "pretty" ought to be determined by a clean and clear complexion; healthy hair; clean & straight teeth; healthy; bright eyes; good hygiene; moderately in shape... a playing field in which all women can "compete"... in instead of aesthetics that vary and make it difficult to set a specific standard <~~~ I never understood that!

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  10. Destee

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    Ohhh Sister Riada ... i disagree. How can anyone think their own self not pretty?

    As i read you, i think of my Little Black Girls Are Ugly thread, and i see a little girl saying she is not pretty, and that everybody can't be pretty. I totally disagree. You are most definitely pretty. If you were my baby, my daughter, i'd never let you get away with saying such words, thinking such thoughts. Of course you are pretty, who did God make prettier than you?!

    But you are not a little girl, so i will say okay to your response ... and let you have your way ... for now ... :wink:

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