A few months ago I was sitting with a group of friends and had my legs crossed. The Queen Mother of that group admonished me that ladies do not cross their legs but only their ankles. I squelched that little dominatrix in me that wanted to say "I''m not a lady. I'm a woman." and out of respect for her I began to cross my ankles. Now I find over and over again that respect for others does not lead to lasting behavior modification if I do not have the inner conviction that that is something I need to do. Sistas, have you ever wanted to just dispense with all the do's and don't's of lady like decorum and just be a woman? Cross your legs or tell a man just how sexy you think he is? What to you is the difference between a lady and a woman?