WOW.....it's been a while since I looked at this post......I'm glad to see that so many of you are interested in this topic. After looking at what most of you said......I find that you want to see some edvidence supportin' my claim.......and your wish is GRANTED!!!!
I found just the right website that supports my statement. It is ces.ns2000.net/webs/cescampus/upload/oct._20.pdf.
If you don't wish to read the whole document I'll just pull out one statement in particlar that back up what I'm sayin' ,aiight?
" Statistical research has shown that children who participate in an wholesome environment; foster self discipline and perseverance."
This statement is saying that once a child is given a good enviornment that that is ALL they need and they will carry on from there. Once a child is nutured they grow and develop SELF discipline. Thus, they don't need physical discipline. I haven't found graphs and charts yet......I'm workin on that.....give me a few days......I have a book around the house somewhere..........because I used it to persuade my mother from whippin' me.......it made a very impressive argument because eventually she stopped all the way.
And secondly, I wasn't JUST talkin about white and black folks ways of discipline. And slash that comment anyway.........because after thinkin that over you can't put that type of generlization on people anyway. So whoever made that argument about that I think you should rethink yourself too.
Back to negotiating with the child.I think it is right to negotiate with the child after a certain age. Maybe starting at the age of 15 - and up. I found a published article at:
www.ispcc.ie/par_discipline.htm
It states:
QUOTE:
Teenagers
NEGOTIATION:
Try to discuss any conflicts in a positive way, without getting cross. It is better to 'negotiate' with your child and find a middle way that you can both accept, just as you would with an adult.
MUTUAL RESPECT:
Teenagers are more likely to respect your views if you show respect for theirs. Imposing your opinions may only make things worse. LIMIT CRITICISM: Try not to be too critical - as they become adults, children need a lot of support and encouragement to build up their confidence.
I don't know how we got off the topic.......but um.........I must end by saying I agree with NNQueen.......that parents only should be held responsible after a certain age.