ANOTHER personal problem-lol

Discussion in 'Black Teenagers - Teenz Exprezzed!' started by iwannabe, Sep 18, 2005.

  1. iwannabe

    iwannabe Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Ok this is a little less explicit than my last post but here goes; I am involved with a female who truly adores me, but I dont like her anymore. In fact I cant stand her anymore-we have NO chemistry what so ever. Why am I still with her? It's kind of out of pity... she is a very lonely- emotionaly needy person. I have the sense that she was deeply sad about things in her life so used me to compensate. I dont want to be unhappy- BUT im so scared of how it might affect her if I were to look elsewhere. I've never been good at breaking up with girls...lol any suggestions?
     
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    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    before you do anything, find out if she owns a gun.
     
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    iwannabe Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    lol i guess that was helpfull
     
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    A relationship can't be built or sustained on pity. If you not want to be with her anymore, then the relationship is over. It would be better for both of you if you told her outright.
     
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    I agree with both James and Pan. She needs to be told, but you do have to be careful how you tell her. And I'm wondering, do you know any of her friends or family, and do you know if they're aware of her mental state?
     
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    believe it or not, by staying with her you are doing her more harm then good. Gently tell her and move on.
     
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    OK, if you are sure she is not packin..........

    sit her on her steps or some other outside, public place.
    tell her straight up why you are leaving.
    get up and walk away.
     
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    iwannabe

    Just be honest.

    You may not want to hurt her feelings but she would be even more hurt if she finds out you have mislead her throughout the entire relationship. Just tell her the truth and do it in a kind and respectable way.I hope all goes well.
    Peace
     
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    iwannabe Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    lol okaqy thank you all but the problem has already been solved. I started out like "I feel that me and you arent clicking anymore...I'm stressing you out- vice versa, yada yada yada...." then she jumped in and jumped me b4 i could finish....jeeze, girls....
     
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    lol

    Sorry to hear that she didn't tak it well but you did the right thing.
     
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