Black Relationships : An Ex that wont go Away!

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  1. AHMOSE

    AHMOSE Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    How do you tell an Ex to leave you alone after you have already told them to leave you alone?

    She left me for unknown reasons, but I said you leaving are you sure? She replied, "Yes, I am." My response was, "You are not coming back its over."
    Now she realizes she made a mistake and will not stop calling me and coming by my house. She is determined for us to "work things out", but Im not we are done. How do you get a person like this to get the point?
     
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    many will not get it until you take legal action
    like a restrain order , some simply let them know rudely to get the
    picture and some will show 'em by being seen a lot with the new love
    people react to this differently , but which ever way you feel best for you
    do so and GOOD LUCK
     
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    Rich is correct. Get the order. :danger: You never know about stalkers. They can get violent. Seeing you happy makes her upset, and she wants to know really why you seem to be Ok without her. The restraining order will protect you later, if she came up and tried to get physical. No calls have to stay 100 yards away from you or something like that.
     
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    I don't think this situation calls for a restraining order just yet. I would get her to leave me alone, by leaving her alone. Brother Godssoulja if you have caller ID, then simply don't pick up when she calls. Better yet change your phone number. If you don't make yourself available to her, then she will eventually get the hint.
     
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    set the dogs on her!

    get the order of protection.
     
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    exactly...don't answer the phone when she calls...don't answer the door when she stops by...the more you talk to her the more she will think that she has a chance to get back in....

    one love
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    I Agree With A,ll of You

    I think that you should ignore her with caller ID, change your number, ignore her when she comes over even if it means that she humiliates herself in front of the neighbors. If this fails to work get a restraining order!!
     
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    I will add a little twist to this she is the mother of my 5 year old son.
     
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    You're screwed bruh!!! I would suggest you give her another chance for the sake of your child, but it seems home girl left you for another guy and wants to come back when that didn't work out. She is the mother of your child though. [email protected] dude you're screwed.
     
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    Don't take her back...ever. She left you even though you guys were a family, so it was definately for someone else. Never trust a woman that does that. You still have your son even if you're not with her, so you might have to make a complaint on her. Definately don't give her another chance. Get a restraining order if you can. That will keep her away. I'm not sure how that works though, since you guys do have a child together. At least let her know that if it continues, that you'll seek some type of action against her. You can take care of your parental responsibilies without having her in the picture, so don't be pressured iinto doing something that you now will not work. There are millions of miserable people that are together for the sake of the child, so that's not the answer.
     
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