Black Relationships : AM I To Picky ?

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  1. MsPoetic

    MsPoetic Active Member MEMBER

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    Am I to picky ?

    My friends claim that I will never have a man because I am to picky ! Frankly I disagree !
    I know what I want and I will not settle . Besides, I have a lot to offer.I am not asking no more than what I am willing and able to bring to the table . I think it is reasonable to want honesty ,faithfulness, good hygeine, spirituality etc.
    The problem you ask ?
    I am alone !
     
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    Well to be exact I would like a man that posses a spiritual soul , stablility, determination , a sense of humor & a sense of family. I have carefully analyzed myself and what I am able to tolerate . I am focused: I have a fulltime job and I am a undergraduate student going fulltime . I really don't have much time in between therefore I need a man that is seeking similar goals .

    I am able to be a supporter , a friend , a compainion but I refuse to carry someone . It is so stressful to deal with men that don't have a clue what they want to strive for and they are 25-30 yrs of age . If they do have they do have there career to gether they are screwed mentally . I mean they are afraid that someone is out for their money or to use them . Stuck on the Stuff there "baby 's momma " has done to them.

    To your final answer No !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    well i see both ya points but i agree wit Kemet. coz a man do
    need attention and affection just as his mate would now i
    know a few females who have da greatest back ground for
    motherly love affectional love sweet and kind yet they lack da
    heart to know what a mans need is so that put them alone!
    i feel u on what u seek in a good man to u but when do u have
    the time to be that lovin mate he seeks even if his goals r just
    what u wish for their is a chance u could lose him coz of lackness
    dis come inside every mind when we go into a relationship
    but it works both ways u might not have what he seeks so again
    the alone thing comes up ........ hummmmmm! making me wonder
    if i'm asking for too much of her and not given enough of me!??
     
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    Thank you for both of you guys input, it made realize that I am to focused on me right now and I don't have room for a relationship.
    Thanks Again,
    Poetic
     
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    INDEED YA MOST WELCOME SWEETIE BE WHAT U NEED TO BE
    FIRST THEN SEEK YA KING!.........
     
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    hummmmm!!! i would like to hear dis answer!?
     
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    No I don't believe in booty calls (i respect my treasure more than that )
    I do have a friend that has a schedule as hectic as mine.We have an understanding and we don't pressure each other about spending time . It isn't perfect but it works for the "meantime" .
    I redefine my needs and what I was able to give and than
    "EJ" appeared ! So we will see
     
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    Booty Calls are for the desperate , lonely and no confidence woman !
     
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    well said sistah and i give my upmost respect to u for dat!!!!
    u r sweet and mindfully blessed so continue ya walk before
    u run ........
     
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    Just met a young lady (31) in a training I'm in. We were talking and it came out that she and her fiance are looking at new homes. They both want to get escrow started so they can move in when they marry next year. Her personality is sparkling, she was very warm, and funny as all get out. We got a bit more personal, and she said she is a Christian, and so is her man. They are both looking forward to their wedding day, and living together for the rest of their lives. She shared that it's been very difficult all these years, waiting on the right man; so many "pretenders" along the way. And the clincher is that she is still a virgin.

    She said that she sees herself as the best jewel she has to offer a good man. And she wants him to have the best. There was a temptation to move in together first since they are "engaged", but they prayed about it and decided against.

    Now I realize, as human beings, we do our thing and make bad choices. But it doesn't mean we can't correct our lives by not repeating behaviors that took us down in the past.

    I was encouraged when I spoke to this sista. She has high standards and even though she is in a society that thinks little of what she's doing, she hasn't let the pressure get the best of her.

    And I think about her man. He'll be the first. There are many who would say that sexual experiences before marriage is good for men and women. But as another man once shared with me, "I wish I had saved myself for my wife; because then I wouldn't have all these other freaks in my head when I'm making love with her"....

    Not even trying to preach here. I wouldn't dare. But I had to give props to my 31 year old sista who said she'll be well worth the wait. :)

    No such thing as being "too picky" when we're coming with quality....

    a
     
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