Gosh ... i remember this thread and situation ... and over the years it's only gotten worse, seeing more and more young Mothers doing things that they might not know they should not be doing. Oftentimes, if we don't have someone to guide us in this way, we won't know what to do. I'm so grateful for my Mother, but everyone doesn't have the kind of Mother that i did. Fortunately though, we have destee.com ... ... where if a young Mother stumbles upon us ... reads some of what is shared here ... they may be able to incorporate the pieces that work for them.
Just recently i visited with another young Sister, first time Mother, and her newborn. She had brought the baby over to visit, she was about 4 or 5 months old, and it was cold outside. The Mother had her all bundled up nicely, protecting her from the cold, and after getting her all unwrapped from outer clothing, blankets, etc. ... i saw that the baby didn't have on an undershirt !!!
The Momma had done a great job at bundling her up outerwear wise, but there was no undershirt! It took all i had in me to stay calm and not fuss. I gently mentioned that you want to ALWAYS have an undershirt on the baby, for it helps to keep her warmth inside, close to her body.
As we talked, i could tell that the young Mother was getting all kind of advice from her own parents, plus all the other grandparents, and she was overwhelmed by it all. Everyone telling her what she should be doing for her baby, when she has some ideas of her own ... and afterall ... it is her baby. She kinda expressed this, so i backed down considerably, not letting loose like i would have if it had been my own grandchild ... not wanting to put anymore on her, when she's getting so much advice from her own Family and such.
But let me tell the young Mothers right now ... keep an undershirt on the baby ... it hugs their body and helps keep their warmth inside.
Okay ... i'm done ....
Loving Us!
Destee
Just recently i visited with another young Sister, first time Mother, and her newborn. She had brought the baby over to visit, she was about 4 or 5 months old, and it was cold outside. The Mother had her all bundled up nicely, protecting her from the cold, and after getting her all unwrapped from outer clothing, blankets, etc. ... i saw that the baby didn't have on an undershirt !!!
The Momma had done a great job at bundling her up outerwear wise, but there was no undershirt! It took all i had in me to stay calm and not fuss. I gently mentioned that you want to ALWAYS have an undershirt on the baby, for it helps to keep her warmth inside, close to her body.
As we talked, i could tell that the young Mother was getting all kind of advice from her own parents, plus all the other grandparents, and she was overwhelmed by it all. Everyone telling her what she should be doing for her baby, when she has some ideas of her own ... and afterall ... it is her baby. She kinda expressed this, so i backed down considerably, not letting loose like i would have if it had been my own grandchild ... not wanting to put anymore on her, when she's getting so much advice from her own Family and such.
But let me tell the young Mothers right now ... keep an undershirt on the baby ... it hugs their body and helps keep their warmth inside.
Okay ... i'm done ....
Loving Us!
Destee