It truly breaks my heart to see the current status of the black family in the US, as well as the indifference from some, and acceptance from others about the current state of the black family in this country. Family is the most important aspect of African society. It is an expectation that both a mother and father will be present in every family. It is an expectation that all children will be born within a marriage. This is our true culture, and original values. These are not white values, which some people mistakenly (even foolishly) belive....these are African Values! Initiation Rites were part of our education, just as important as learning the ABCs. In fact they were more important, because they helped shape our character. In the decades that followed we were able to at least maintain some aspects of our cultures and values. However with each passing generation, it is obvious that the further we are removed from our roots, the more chaotic our families become. We have to restore our traditional values, there is no other option! I think that restoring the Initiation Rites is the best option to do so. Although I am not sure that every parent(s) is ready for these rites. There are too many in our community afraid of critic to enroll in such school. That is evident in some of the comments present within our many threads on this subject. The African Initiation Rites is the final solution in healing the black family in America. However, the first step in healing the black family in America is for both men and women to admit there is a problem. Not only do both men & women need to admit there is a problem, both need to desire a change, and a better way for their children. Unfortunately we have not reached this point yet; however, I must say that with estimated of 65-70% of our children being born to a single mother; I don't know how much further we can afford to slide before we reach this point. An African Initiation Rite will most certainly tell children different methods of conducting themselves sexually & emotionally than their parents. They will be taught that what their parent's way is not the right way. Obviously they will need to be taught these lessons without interference from the parents. These young people don't need to hear their mothers countering lessons by insisting the reason they are single is because their boyfriend/lover was a lying dog who tricked them into getting pregnant, then left as soon as he found out. Similarly these young people don't need to hear their fathers countering lessons by insisting the reason they couldn't be around is because their mother was a crazy controlling "B" who was impossible to be with. No these schools will teach young people in our community about how to properly select a member of the opposite sex, and how to be a responsible & productive member of society. Parents in the African American community need to be ready to let their children learn these lessons, and not be sensitive if it criticizes their life or lifestyle. One of the more fascinating things I've learned about Initiation Rites is that some even deal with achieving sexual satisfaction with the opposite sex without actually having sexual intercourse (thus saving oneself for marriage, and preventing children out of wedlock). Jomo Kenyatta addressed this in his book, "Facing Mt. Kenya". They are truly a different way of thinking, and are sorely needed in our community.