Now we got a thread going about how African American women are different from our sistas in Africa because of racism here in America. The assumption being that there is no racism on the Mother continent. Click over to the Pan Africa forum and you discover that this is not so. So what makes the difference between their struggles and ours? Why were Africans able to maintain family values while we lost them? I think the big culprit for us is the recurrent separations we've suffered since we were first stolen from our homeland. See the pattern: 1. The first separation from our African roots when we boarded the Good Ship Jesus. 2. Family members sold away from one another during slavery. 3. Family members separated when they ran away from slavery. The old could not run so the young were separated from their roots. 4.Migration from farms and small towns in the south to cities in the north during the industrial revolution. Again the old were left behind and the young found themselves in close quarters with strangers. 5. Flight of affluent Blacks from the inner city to the suburbs looking for a better (whiter) life and leaving the untalented 90 behind. 6. Mass drafting of Black men in the white man's wars. 7. The welfare system which made it more profitable for a woman to raise a family without a man when the men couldn't get jobs and their presence meant she wouldn't get government money to feed the kids. All these migrations served to devestate the African American culture and create a more desastrous effect than we would have if we suffered racism in Africa. Mere education and a fancy corporate career cannot replace what was lost. We need to restructure and rebuild the human connections. When Black women don't feel threatened, when we don't feel so all alone we are the sweetest creatures God's got.