- Oct 25, 2005
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The Centrality of Women in the Moral Teachings in African Society
I tried to tell you through SCIENCE that sleeping with YOUR WOMEN as UNMARRIED is DUMB. But dont believe me because it has POPPED UP in Africa's past for some UNKNOWN reason.
I tried to tell you that there is a problem with SEX. I am not talking about JUST DISEASES. I was even told on another forum that MARRIAGE is wishful ideological thinking for TEENAGERS. CONDOMS is a more APPROPIATE and SAFER PSYCHOLOGICAL SANER CHOICE. But it appears they are GETTING SOMEBODIES MESSAGE. If true, things are getting REALLY DUMB. These OPTIONS TO DEAL about MARRIAGE is spreading like those DISEASES. From one AFRICAN to another AFRICAN. It also shows how much FAITH a people HAS in such THINGS. But this is OK. Afterall there are OPTIONS. Those SPOUTING OPTIONS about MARRIAGE must be REALLY GREAT TEACHERS. Dont tell me things are getting REALLY DUMB (less spiritual).
But OH WELL.
In Kenya, the ideology which links women with pollution, evil and other negative influences is frequently reinforced and acted out when, for example, a crucial football match is impending between two major teams and nobody wants to leave anything to chance. On such occasions, male players are always cautioned not to sleep with women so as to avoid bad luck and losing to the other team. This belief predates colonialism, and a more plausible explanation for it is that the players are advised and expected to preserve their energies for the match by abstaining from any activities which are considered to be physically demanding. This belief was part of the African dominant ideology during the days of inter-tribal warfare.
I tried to tell you through SCIENCE that sleeping with YOUR WOMEN as UNMARRIED is DUMB. But dont believe me because it has POPPED UP in Africa's past for some UNKNOWN reason.
Cohabitation and other new experimental alternatives to traditional marriage are prevalent in urban African families. And because modern marriages today break up quite easily, many young people are reluctant to commit themselves to a life-long church marriage. Many African Christians do not marry in church even though they are still considered to be ’properly’ married. The Christian idea of marriage as a covenant for life, as a sacrament and as an enduring relationship of love and fidelity is becoming more difficult to uphold today in the context of delocalized moral values and increased marital problems (Hastings 1973). The mutual commitment to enter into a marriage and make it work seems to be getting replaced by several options. Today, many young couples hastily enter into a marriage with several options and even seriously discuss what should be done if the marriage breaks up. One of the things which is shown by this trend is that the notion of marriage as an indissoluble union is no longer widely upheld and, secondly, that many couples seem to anticipate marital problems and how to deal with them even before they get married. And when things go wrong with a relationship, as they will always do, the partners quit rather than wait and try to work things out. While there is no moral basis for anyone to stay in a marriage which is deeply unhappy and riddled with violence, it is good for spouses to demonstrate a strong commitment to remaining married. But this effect has become less common in many modern marriages than was the case in traditional society.
I tried to tell you that there is a problem with SEX. I am not talking about JUST DISEASES. I was even told on another forum that MARRIAGE is wishful ideological thinking for TEENAGERS. CONDOMS is a more APPROPIATE and SAFER PSYCHOLOGICAL SANER CHOICE. But it appears they are GETTING SOMEBODIES MESSAGE. If true, things are getting REALLY DUMB. These OPTIONS TO DEAL about MARRIAGE is spreading like those DISEASES. From one AFRICAN to another AFRICAN. It also shows how much FAITH a people HAS in such THINGS. But this is OK. Afterall there are OPTIONS. Those SPOUTING OPTIONS about MARRIAGE must be REALLY GREAT TEACHERS. Dont tell me things are getting REALLY DUMB (less spiritual).
But OH WELL.