where do i start with this one...? this is going to be a long story... i have been with someone for awhile now (this has been my longest relationship) and when he got caught up and had to go to san quentin prison for six months... i kept in contact with him. i never sent money and he didn't want me to come and visit, we just wrote to eachother. they weren't neccesarily love letters. instead, we wrote about our relationship and tried to establish what level we were on, we wrote about the future, and i kept him informed on what was going on out here in the real world. it was my understanding that we had a relationship: not exactly boyfriend and girlfriend because of the fact that he was locked up. our bond is hard to describe. we were like intimate friends. he told me that his first priority when he got home was to get back on his feet and i agreed that that was a good idea. well... the last letter that i got, he basically thanked me for being there for him. he told me not to write back because he wouldn't be there to get it. he came home on tuesday of this week but he hasn't called me yet. that is what i am upset about. it's not like i smother him or call him 24-7. i call once, and if he isn't available, he knows how to get a hold of me. that's exactly what i did. i left my new cell phone number with his brother but he has not called me yet. we live about an hour apart and i'm not even asking him to come and see me. i understand that he might be taking care of business right now. regardless, he can at least call me to say hello. i just wanted to hear his voice again. my mom tells me to move on. "you're a pretty girl and you're a good student, why waste your time?" she says. i can understand where she's coming from. but, he is a good man and i don't want to go through all of the drama that i have been through before. i guess i'm just starting to think that maybe i'm putting more into this than he is... i don't know. so here's the dilemma... do i drop this and just continue with my life? or do i wait until i can talk to him about the situation? i really do care for him and i know that good relationships take time and effort to develop. i feel that if i "cut him off" then that makes me weak because i didn't have the strength to work on this and make things better. that's one of the reasons why i think that some relationships don't last. but on the other hand, i realize that enough is enough. usually when a woman says that her man is in prison, people start thinking negative things. despite the fact that i am angry with him right now... he is a good person. i would have never waited for six months if i felt that it wasn't worth it. he had two legal jobs before he got locked up, he had goals and inspirations just like me. in my eyes, we had a perfect relationship building for the future and we have never had any problems before. so... he's not a bad man, i just don't know what to think at this point.