Hi new family...I just registered for the board and look forward to new and insightful conversations with all...My first pot though, is something that I need advice with...thank you in advance I was in a relationship for 6 years, last year I made it a point sit my SO down and let him know that its time to take it to the next level, get a little more serious (we were starting to have finances together, and much more), he told me that he did not want to do that and that he needed some space and that he didnt want a "serious" girlfriend..fine..I went on about my business, given him the space that he desired, well between this time I found out that he got a girlfriend after I found that out I decided to completely shut him out, well he has begged me for my friendship ( ive never heard of anyone begging for a friendship to this degree), wrote me several emails, letters, stating that he really wants our friendship to work...we were each others best friend..and I decided to let him back in just as a friend..we have endured too much and our time spent was still worth a friendship... A little background:At the current moment, No he is not together as fas as life wise, he has alot of issues that he needs to work on, job, money, and the list can go on...he isnt where he wants to be in life, I myself have a career, make good money, and looking into buying a home, and keep climbing the ladder. His "younger girlfriend"..is 22, no job, no car, no education, pretty 'simple', her idea of a relationship is basically time and someone to call a 'man', totally different from me and his relationship and what I require... This man has been nothing but real with me, and honest as he always has been, but to me he talks in riddles and bc of my complicated thinking, i run away with what he says...He told me that "its definately not me and this is where his life took us, and that right now he cant give me what I want, and that he does not want a serious relationship"... My questions for you all.. Why is it that he chose this young woman with no substantial future? And when the going gets tough he choose something so "simple"? Is it because this yound 22 year old is on the same level as him "life wise"? Why is is that he says he does not want a serious relationship when in fact he is in a relationship? What is the point of this man holding on to my friendship? My uncle has told me because I am his best friend, he has that emotional, spiritual, and mental connection with me BUT he knows that he does not deserve you 'at this time' in his life while he is trying to manage and get in his life in order? So your friendship is wanted by him in the hopes that when he is ready IF he does grow up, that he still may have a chance. And that the emotions he has for me are real and what he feels for his girlfriend is manufactured and manipulated feelings,a physical outlet. Do you all think the same thing? Which also poses this question....is it really possible for men to feel that they dont deserve the person that they love? I know this is a long read but all answers are welcomed,and thank you so much!