Black Relationships : Advice needed: How can I get away???

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  1. SweetPrincess

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    In 2003, i use to talk to this guy name Carl. Me and carl were together for a few months, then our relationship eventually fizzled out. We had a silent, unannounced breakup. One of those where you just know that its over but it is never actually said. We spoke less but we still continued to hang out once in a while. In January 2004, I heard he was with another girl, but when I asked him he denied it. When we went out one time, I told him refrain from touching me because anything that you do now that you don't do in the presence of your gf constitutes as cheating. He said I dont have a gf. We continued to have a sexual relationship. In April 2004, he calls me up and asks me what am I getting him for his baby shower. At that point, I was completely unaware that he had gotten a girl pregnant. After getting over the initial shock, despite my better judgement,I still allowed him to come over and we still have sex. To this day in 2005 we still have sex. I cant seem to wean myself off of him. December 2004, I contracted HPV from a partner at school despite using a condom. My ex helped me to deal with the whole stigma associated with it and held me when I cried. His support meant the world to me, and added to my bond to him. I feel he cares about me. Even though I'm in Florida for like 4 months at a time, he still keeps up with me. I feel he is emotionally draining though and I know karma is going to murder me. How do I let go of someone I've grown so accustomed to???
     
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    see a therapist.
     
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    Lol great advice but I dont think Im that out of control with my emotions yet nor can I afford a therapist. I am genuinely seeking advice though.
     
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    i just gave you the best advice.
    you choose to blow it off.

    this exposes the root of your problem: poor judgement.
     
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    You have to just do it, meaning leave. He doesn't want you and he doesn't care about you. Why are you wasting your time with such a loser? Your time is better spent trying to find someone else who will legitimately care about you.
     
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    That's what you call "keeping it real"!
     
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