My whole purpose is not to insult. This is not just about making money. Far from it because actually, so far, the black women who have been clients have spent far less money then my white clients. I have enjoyed shooting their weddings more than most of the white weddings I have done. That is why I am interested in pursuing their business. When I started my website I didn't do it with the intention of targeting any certain race. I just put it out there. I would be asking the same question if these women were asian, indian, eastern, etc. If I moved to a new town that had mostly say... Italians, I would be researching Italian culture. This is part of what makes many white women afraid to approach black women. Your response sounds very defensive and I am trying to find a way to connect in a respectful way with a group of women that I find very interesting.
As for seeking friendships with "black" women or rather not seeking them, I have always made friends through opportunities. How odd would it be if I sought out women simply because they were black, asian, etc. However now that the opportunity has risen I am simply trying to do a little research to avoid offending. I am trying to get to know about my potential clients and /or friends. I am trying to research culture. Even if I never get another black client now that I have been exposed to these particular women, I would still like to become friends and find out more about them. The man who does my nails is asian. We have had many interesting conversations about the difference in our cultures. Neither one of us has ever been offended in the interest the other has had. I have asked many of the same questions about what is proper in his culture in contrast to the way that things are done in mine. It has never once occurred to me that he is only asking questions or answering them because he wanted to glean more business from me but even if he was I wouldn't care. The man has a business and if that information helps him to further it then good for him.
As for seeking friendships with "black" women or rather not seeking them, I have always made friends through opportunities. How odd would it be if I sought out women simply because they were black, asian, etc. However now that the opportunity has risen I am simply trying to do a little research to avoid offending. I am trying to get to know about my potential clients and /or friends. I am trying to research culture. Even if I never get another black client now that I have been exposed to these particular women, I would still like to become friends and find out more about them. The man who does my nails is asian. We have had many interesting conversations about the difference in our cultures. Neither one of us has ever been offended in the interest the other has had. I have asked many of the same questions about what is proper in his culture in contrast to the way that things are done in mine. It has never once occurred to me that he is only asking questions or answering them because he wanted to glean more business from me but even if he was I wouldn't care. The man has a business and if that information helps him to further it then good for him.