I agree that there are substitutes or alternatives that can work well. I am a prime example of that. But, most in our community acknowledge that we have a lack of "positive male role models" in our community. So, first off, a substitute or alternative only becomes necessary when the biological father has failed to step up. Next, because of the acknowledged lack of positive male role models within our community, it is clear that in many cases, no suitable substitute or alternative fills the void left by the AWOL father.
Nationally, 40 percent of children whose fathers live outside the home have no contact with them. The other 60 percent had contact an average of 69 days during the year. 26 percent of absent fathers live in a different state than their children.
So, yes, we are discussing fatherless homes. That is what this thread title is about...it is not about step fathers, substitute fathers, or the like. I agree that if someone is in the home doing the job of the father, that often works fine.
Now, looking at this thing from the perspective of wanting to make things better lets take a look at the very real statistics concerning the negative aspects of fatherlessness. Considering that somewhere between 70% and 85% of prison inmates are from fatherless homes, we should be honest with that fact and see exactly what that means and what that data is trying to tell us. Be honest, in your opinion, what do you think that data is trying to tell us? What can we gleen from that statistic.
http://www.dhr.state.al.us/page.asp?pageid=408
The chief predictor of crime in a neighborhood is the percentage of homes without fathers. Up to 70 percent of adolescents charged with murder are from fatherless homes. Up to 70 percent of long-term prison inmates grew up in fatherless homes.
http://www.fathermag.com/news/2778-stats.shtml
85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home (Source: Fulton Co. Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections 1992)
So, concerning fatherlessness, we really need to give serious consideration to the statistics and see what we can do to overcome the effects it has had on our community.