how to tell a fake.......
If they seem to only keep you around in certain situations, have you around certain freinds, only let certian, or no, family members meet you....you are being tolerated. If you are the only black person they deal with and there is opportunity to deal with others presenting itself daily, you are being tolerated.
It is not something that can be learned to observe this...it is just from life experience. Before I reached teenage years, I could tell the difference....that is from experience. If you are grown and trying to learn, it is good to ask around like this and create a sort of check list to go by so that you dont get in a situation where you thought you had a real friend/associate and you didnt. Some people like token blacks, some like to keep blacks around as entertainment, some think it is exotic, some want to feel like they are doing you a favour by letting you hang with them.....the list goes on...avoid that BS like the plague.
Hope that was helpfull.
Blak
Its all in the eyes and the behaviours/comments made unconsciously. Anyone can smile in your face, but if you look close you can tell if it is an obnoxious smile, or one with fear behind it....in those cases, the person is racist, or simply worried due to stereotypes respectively.Destee said:Hello Family,
How do you know if a person (white) has accepted you as an equal or if they are tolerating you?
This question came out of Brother OldSoul's class today, and i was wondering if any of you have the answer.
Can you tell the difference between being accepted or tolerated, and if so, please tell us how to know the difference.
Thanks.
Destee
If they seem to only keep you around in certain situations, have you around certain freinds, only let certian, or no, family members meet you....you are being tolerated. If you are the only black person they deal with and there is opportunity to deal with others presenting itself daily, you are being tolerated.
It is not something that can be learned to observe this...it is just from life experience. Before I reached teenage years, I could tell the difference....that is from experience. If you are grown and trying to learn, it is good to ask around like this and create a sort of check list to go by so that you dont get in a situation where you thought you had a real friend/associate and you didnt. Some people like token blacks, some like to keep blacks around as entertainment, some think it is exotic, some want to feel like they are doing you a favour by letting you hang with them.....the list goes on...avoid that BS like the plague.
Hope that was helpfull.
Blak