i'd like to do this "easy" as much as possible without pointing fingers or any of that stuff, so i'll do my best to pose it as a question/suggestion. i think that "The Angry Black Woman" is a very appropriate thread for a site that is all about, if not actually in name, but in ALL Spirit, Healing of the Black Family. could i ask/suggest that the thread closure be reconsidered, please? as was pointed out, this process is easier in a less public environment. however, if it is ever possible, the Sharing of this process is Healing in two additional ways: those on the outside, if/when they remain ON THE OUTSIDE (!MUST!), gain from SEEing, and experiencing the Process, and those on the inside gain the additional Healing that comes from KNOWing that One's Healing is Helping Others. sadly, it looked like the thread got closed at pretty much the exact wrong time; it was starting to "self-moderate". as long as one allows for the "non optimal" nature of some of the posts, there is some growing together from initial focus into a beginning of an agreement as to who was actually trying to say what in the first place and growing to a mutuality of understanding as to the similarities (if not identicality) at the root of the topic and the responses. i think that it will continue to mature into a very Beneficial Experience.