Black Relationships : A WHITE WOMAN'S OPINION OF A BLACK WOMAN AND A BLACK MAN'S RESPONSE

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  1. sweettee29

    sweettee29 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    This was sent to me by my Aunt Rita in Dallas and I just want to share it with you all, It certainly was pretty interesting to me
    p.s. make sure you read all the way through because by the end of this story I am definately proud to be a BLACK WOMAN

    Thankyou
    Sweettee, love


    Subject: A WHITE WOMAN'S OPINION OF BLACK WOMEN AND A BLACK MAN'S

    RESPONSE

    It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by

    a

    Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad

    she got

    what she asked for (and more) !!!

    Dear Jamie:

    I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male

    readers.

    I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking,

    educated

    and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's

    attitudes about

    our relationship.

    My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women

    were

    slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too

    mean, too

    argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much

    excess

    baggage.

    Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly

    approached by

    Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If

    Black women

    are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look

    at

    themselves and make some changes.

    I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out

    in

    public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so

    appealing and coveted by them.

    Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles

    Barkley,

    Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy

    Jones,

    James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan , Cuba

    Gooding

    Jr., Don Cornelius , Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne,

    Wesley

    Snipes...

    I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is

    why I

    wrote this so hurriedly.. Don't be mad with us White women because

    so many

    of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we

    may

    lead you to treat your men better.. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me

    know.

    Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA

    RESPONSE

    Dear Jamie:

    I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White

    Girl.

    Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I

    graduated from

    one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgiawith a

    Bachelor

    of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major

    corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider

    myself to be

    among the ranks of successful black men.

    I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want

    to set

    the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the

    day, one

    of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because

    they were

    considered easy.

    The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They

    were very

    strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to.

    Because

    of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would

    give it

    up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.

    Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because

    they are

    docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of

    insecurities,

    fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the

    strength of

    our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more

    successful than

    us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.

    Because

    of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone

    we can

    control.

    I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on

    how

    easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want

    to set

    the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not

    all

    successful black men date white women.

    Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan,

    Morris

    Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds ,

    Samuel L.

    Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip

    the

    script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light,

    who

    openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson,

    Robert

    DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.

    I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop

    thinking

    that because you are white that you are some type of goddess.

    Remember, when

    black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling

    Dynasties

    and armies of men in Egypt , you were over in the caves of Europe

    eating raw

    meat and beating each other over the head with clubs.

    Read your history!

    It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your

    food. It

    was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It

    was black

    women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during

    slavery.

    It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers,

    husbands,

    and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were

    born with

    two strikes against them: being black and being a woman.

    And, through all this, Still They Rise!

    It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love

    and

    beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is

    not just

    the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the

    fact

    that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love

    them.

    Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women.

    Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity,

    their

    ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for

    what

    they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their

    highest

    potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have

    fallen in

    love with black women.

    I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy

    and envy

    more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you

    continuously

    go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be

    white,

    then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin?

    Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with

    unnatural

    and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?

    I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have

    what the

    black woman has.

    BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can

    walk over

    and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am

    looking for a

    Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my

    children.

    Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am

    looking

    for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you

    do not

    and CANNOT fit the bill.

    No offense taken, none given.

    Signed, Black Royalty.

    Wow!! We must pass this on to make the day of the Black Queens of

    our

    acquaintances!
     
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    Lord have mercy Destee,
    I should have done my home work, lol
    I am sorry for wasting space
    I had never seen this before
    It is pretty interesting though
    and widely circulated
    lol sorry again fam

    Sweettee, love
     
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    Oh no Sister SweetTee ... it's absolutely okay to share whatever you'd like. You didn't know that it had already been posted. We have lots of space, so there is no concern for wasting any ... :) ... i just wanted to share what had already been said regarding this.

    It's all good in da hood Sister ... :love:

    :heart:

    Destee
     
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    has anyone authenticated this article?
    how do we know this is actually a white women speaking?
    even if there is an actual white women somewhere, what do i care what she thinks?
    i think it is a hoax.
     
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    sweettee29 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Thank you Destee

    love ya :hearts1:

    Extremely good point brotha!

    Sweettee, love
     
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    It may or may not be a hoax but I tell you what.....its sooo old, it probably predates the internet!!!

    I'm serious I saw it reprinted in a black magazine (not Sister 2 Sister) in the late 80's long before I was online.
     
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    Seems that I heard this letter read on a radio talk show recently. It sounds rather contrived to me. Both the letter and the response are a bit political. There is no accounting for taste. I love black women, always have, I don't know exactly why, but the black woman is "home" to me. I have found some white women attractive also, but I wouldn't feel at ease dating one, I tried it once when I was in college, I was very uncomfortable with it. I don't think anyone reads a history book about race, before they decide to date one of another race, it's probably just plain ole sex appeal.
     
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    :slobber:

    I have dated a couple of black girls. Sex appeal is the keyword. People of all races like all kinds of different stuff. Interracial, xxxx etc.
     
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    GTFOH:lol: Now you know you ought to be labeled "King of Exaggeration". SM(D)H.

    If that's true, then you know it's a hoax:darts:
     
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