Black Relationships : A Rev's P.O.V. (Point of View)

Yemoja'sGoddess

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I recieved this via e-mail this morning and was compelled to share. Hope this is some vital info for those of us in need. By the way, FYI this was written by a black man.:teach: IT's:time:


REV. JAMAL SPEAKS ON GETTIN YOUR MAN
Please take the time to read and meditate over these words.

To the sisters: be/stay strong.

To the brothers: learn something.

Words from Reverend Dr. Jamaal Harrison Bryant, (Empowerment Temple AME
Church, Baltimore , Maryland )

For those of us who are single or married -- be blessed by this word! I
often warn women who are contemplating marriage to marry someone who
can take care of them.

When a woman marries, it ought to be to someone who is capable of
taking her to the next level. If she comes from poverty, there is no
reason for her to get married and still be impoverished. The role of
the man is to take her to another place. When she gets married, she ought
to dress better, drive better, live better, and eat better, not constantly
be in a struggle over where her next meal is coming from. My
grandmother used to say, "I can do bad all by myself".

For a woman desiring a mate, the objective, of course, would be to find
a Christian man, who's settled, has goals, accomplishments and a job.
But a goal-oriented and focused man can't just be approached any kind
of way. So the woman who seeks this type of stability must make sure that
she stands out above the crowd:
1. Make sure your relationship with the Lord is strong and growing.

2. Make sure that you are presentable. Working from the inside out,
your presentation should be representative of both who you are and whom you
seek. Appearance is a reflection of how you see yourself.

3. Have the ability to hold an intelligent conversation.

4. And most importantly, allow the Divine to take control. You
don't need to go after him. He's going to come after you, because after
he sees and smells you and knows that you're in his presence, he's
going to want to know who you are!

I know there's somebody reading this that has been chasing after the
"man of your dreams," but God says, "Just sit still and allow patience
to have her perfect work through Me."

Furthermore, it's never a good idea to be too forward and too
aggressive. Attempting to win a man's affection by jumping into bed
with him will only backfire and cause him to lose interest in ever
developing a lasting relationship. It causes him to lose respect for you and
question your character. However, if he sees that you are dressed with
quality, that you smell like you are somebody; that you look like
you're doing fine without him, then that will attract the right attention from
him. He'll have no choice but to give you his attention. Stop looking
so needy, climbing into bed, trying in vain to capture a man's heart!


God is so sick of "saints" coming to Him trying to get a quickie and
never romancing Him for Who he is - going to church screaming, shouting and
hollering, but hadn't been intimate with God all week long! Stop trying
to treat God like a sugar daddy and start romancing Him with worship
and praise: "I'm yours Lord...everything I've got...everything I'm not!"

The God we serve, which is the God of love, demands and requires of us
foreplay before He gives us what we need. Ask God to "create in
you a clean heart and renew a right spirit." Stand in the word! Then
wait upon the Lord to renew your strength!

Pass this on to those who have found or are seeking Mr. Right.

With God, All things are Possible!

 
Yemoja'sGoddess said:
I recieved this via e-mail this morning and was compelled to share. Hope this is some vital info for those of us in need. By the way, FYI this was written by a black man.:teach: IT's:time:


REV. JAMAL SPEAKS ON GETTIN YOUR MAN
Please take the time to read and meditate over these words.

To the sisters: be/stay strong.

To the brothers: learn something.

Words from Reverend Dr. Jamaal Harrison Bryant, (Empowerment Temple AME
Church, Baltimore , Maryland )

For those of us who are single or married -- be blessed by this word! I
often warn women who are contemplating marriage to marry someone who
can take care of them.

When a woman marries, it ought to be to someone who is capable of
taking her to the next level. If she comes from poverty, there is no
reason for her to get married and still be impoverished. The role of
the man is to take her to another place. When she gets married, she ought
to dress better, drive better, live better, and eat better, not constantly
be in a struggle over where her next meal is coming from. My
grandmother used to say, "I can do bad all by myself".

For a woman desiring a mate, the objective, of course, would be to find
a Christian man, who's settled, has goals, accomplishments and a job.
But a goal-oriented and focused man can't just be approached any kind
of way. So the woman who seeks this type of stability must make sure that
she stands out above the crowd:
1. Make sure your relationship with the Lord is strong and growing.

2. Make sure that you are presentable. Working from the inside out,
your presentation should be representative of both who you are and whom you
seek. Appearance is a reflection of how you see yourself.

3. Have the ability to hold an intelligent conversation.

4. And most importantly, allow the Divine to take control. You
don't need to go after him. He's going to come after you, because after
he sees and smells you and knows that you're in his presence, he's
going to want to know who you are!

I know there's somebody reading this that has been chasing after the
"man of your dreams," but God says, "Just sit still and allow patience
to have her perfect work through Me."

Furthermore, it's never a good idea to be too forward and too
aggressive. Attempting to win a man's affection by jumping into bed
with him will only backfire and cause him to lose interest in ever
developing a lasting relationship. It causes him to lose respect for you and
question your character. However, if he sees that you are dressed with
quality, that you smell like you are somebody; that you look like
you're doing fine without him, then that will attract the right attention from
him. He'll have no choice but to give you his attention. Stop looking
so needy, climbing into bed, trying in vain to capture a man's heart!


God is so sick of "saints" coming to Him trying to get a quickie and
never romancing Him for Who he is - going to church screaming, shouting and
hollering, but hadn't been intimate with God all week long! Stop trying
to treat God like a sugar daddy and start romancing Him with worship
and praise: "I'm yours Lord...everything I've got...everything I'm not!"

The God we serve, which is the God of love, demands and requires of us
foreplay before He gives us what we need. Ask God to "create in
you a clean heart and renew a right spirit." Stand in the word! Then
wait upon the Lord to renew your strength!

Pass this on to those who have found or are seeking Mr. Right.

With God, All things are Possible!



You are right. There was something to be learned. THIS WAS SO EUROPEANIZED THAT IT ISN'T FUNNY. It is clearly an anti-African patriarchal reality that boarders on "Trickin". Now I'm going to leave this alone for now just to give you a little time to think about this...but if need be, I will come back to explain it if someone doesn't beat me to the punch.
 
Thanks Sistah for sharing this. Good word. It is a woman's nature (no matter what color she is) to desire strong leadership in a man...one who provides security and one who is a good father. Leadership, security and provision along with good common sense and tenacity in goal accomplishments are what some black women want however, those type of women are often characterized as "gold diggers" while it is acceptable for women of other races to desire such things in a man. Thus, we have many sistahs who have no standards for what they want in a man and no responsibility in how they manage their life until Mr. Right comes along with the "ring".:SuN021:
 

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