Black Relationships : A Rev's P.O.V. (Point of View)

Discussion in 'Black Relationships' started by Yemoja'sGoddess, Jun 29, 2007.

  1. Yemoja'sGoddess

    Yemoja'sGoddess Banned MEMBER

    Feb 14, 2007
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    I recieved this via e-mail this morning and was compelled to share. Hope this is some vital info for those of us in need. By the way, FYI this was written by a black man.:teach: IT's:time:

    Please take the time to read and meditate over these words.

    To the sisters: be/stay strong.

    To the brothers: learn something.

    Words from Reverend Dr. Jamaal Harrison Bryant, (Empowerment Temple AME
    Church, Baltimore , Maryland )

    For those of us who are single or married -- be blessed by this word! I
    often warn women who are contemplating marriage to marry someone who
    can take care of them.

    When a woman marries, it ought to be to someone who is capable of
    taking her to the next level. If she comes from poverty, there is no
    reason for her to get married and still be impoverished. The role of
    the man is to take her to another place. When she gets married, she ought
    to dress better, drive better, live better, and eat better, not constantly
    be in a struggle over where her next meal is coming from. My
    grandmother used to say, "I can do bad all by myself".

    For a woman desiring a mate, the objective, of course, would be to find
    a Christian man, who's settled, has goals, accomplishments and a job.
    But a goal-oriented and focused man can't just be approached any kind
    of way. So the woman who seeks this type of stability must make sure that
    she stands out above the crowd:
    1. Make sure your relationship with the Lord is strong and growing.

    2. Make sure that you are presentable. Working from the inside out,
    your presentation should be representative of both who you are and whom you
    seek. Appearance is a reflection of how you see yourself.

    3. Have the ability to hold an intelligent conversation.

    4. And most importantly, allow the Divine to take control. You
    don't need to go after him. He's going to come after you, because after
    he sees and smells you and knows that you're in his presence, he's
    going to want to know who you are!

    I know there's somebody reading this that has been chasing after the
    "man of your dreams," but God says, "Just sit still and allow patience
    to have her perfect work through Me."

    Furthermore, it's never a good idea to be too forward and too
    aggressive. Attempting to win a man's affection by jumping into bed
    with him will only backfire and cause him to lose interest in ever
    developing a lasting relationship. It causes him to lose respect for you and
    question your character. However, if he sees that you are dressed with
    quality, that you smell like you are somebody; that you look like
    you're doing fine without him, then that will attract the right attention from
    him. He'll have no choice but to give you his attention. Stop looking
    so needy, climbing into bed, trying in vain to capture a man's heart!

    God is so sick of "saints" coming to Him trying to get a quickie and
    never romancing Him for Who he is - going to church screaming, shouting and
    hollering, but hadn't been intimate with God all week long! Stop trying
    to treat God like a sugar daddy and start romancing Him with worship
    and praise: "I'm yours Lord...everything I've got...everything I'm not!"

    The God we serve, which is the God of love, demands and requires of us
    foreplay before He gives us what we need. Ask God to "create in
    you a clean heart and renew a right spirit." Stand in the word! Then
    wait upon the Lord to renew your strength!

    Pass this on to those who have found or are seeking Mr. Right.

    With God, All things are Possible!

  2. Keita Kenyatta

    Keita Kenyatta going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

    Feb 7, 2004
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    You are right. There was something to be learned. THIS WAS SO EUROPEANIZED THAT IT ISN'T FUNNY. It is clearly an anti-African patriarchal reality that boarders on "Trickin". Now I'm going to leave this alone for now just to give you a little time to think about this...but if need be, I will come back to explain it if someone doesn't beat me to the punch.
  3. Yemoja'sGoddess

    Yemoja'sGoddess Banned MEMBER

    Feb 14, 2007
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    I thank u King Keita for you response. I appreciate honesty in it's highest form. Please continue to share your views with me, for it is nice to hear what our real afrikan kings have to say!:darts:
  4. oldiesman

    oldiesman Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Feb 9, 2006
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    a rev's p.o.v.

    marry a man that will take care of you??oh really?...children need taking care of,by the time that a WOMAN is ready for marriage she should be taking care of HERSELF,marriage is a partnership[as in 50-50]not section 8,as for the taking care of take care of each other.
  5. Joyce

    Joyce Well-Known Member MEMBER

    May 23, 2001
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    Thanks Sistah for sharing this. Good word. It is a woman's nature (no matter what color she is) to desire strong leadership in a who provides security and one who is a good father. Leadership, security and provision along with good common sense and tenacity in goal accomplishments are what some black women want however, those type of women are often characterized as "gold diggers" while it is acceptable for women of other races to desire such things in a man. Thus, we have many sistahs who have no standards for what they want in a man and no responsibility in how they manage their life until Mr. Right comes along with the "ring".:SuN021: