I recieved this via e-mail this morning and was compelled to share. Hope this is some vital info for those of us in need. By the way, FYI this was written by a black man. IT's REV. JAMAL SPEAKS ON GETTIN YOUR MAN Please take the time to read and meditate over these words. To the sisters: be/stay strong. To the brothers: learn something. Words from Reverend Dr. Jamaal Harrison Bryant, (Empowerment Temple AME Church, Baltimore , Maryland ) For those of us who are single or married -- be blessed by this word! I often warn women who are contemplating marriage to marry someone who can take care of them. When a woman marries, it ought to be to someone who is capable of taking her to the next level. If she comes from poverty, there is no reason for her to get married and still be impoverished. The role of the man is to take her to another place. When she gets married, she ought to dress better, drive better, live better, and eat better, not constantly be in a struggle over where her next meal is coming from. My grandmother used to say, "I can do bad all by myself". For a woman desiring a mate, the objective, of course, would be to find a Christian man, who's settled, has goals, accomplishments and a job. But a goal-oriented and focused man can't just be approached any kind of way. So the woman who seeks this type of stability must make sure that she stands out above the crowd: 1. Make sure your relationship with the Lord is strong and growing. 2. Make sure that you are presentable. Working from the inside out, your presentation should be representative of both who you are and whom you seek. Appearance is a reflection of how you see yourself. 3. Have the ability to hold an intelligent conversation. 4. And most importantly, allow the Divine to take control. You don't need to go after him. He's going to come after you, because after he sees and smells you and knows that you're in his presence, he's going to want to know who you are! I know there's somebody reading this that has been chasing after the "man of your dreams," but God says, "Just sit still and allow patience to have her perfect work through Me." Furthermore, it's never a good idea to be too forward and too aggressive. Attempting to win a man's affection by jumping into bed with him will only backfire and cause him to lose interest in ever developing a lasting relationship. It causes him to lose respect for you and question your character. However, if he sees that you are dressed with quality, that you smell like you are somebody; that you look like you're doing fine without him, then that will attract the right attention from him. He'll have no choice but to give you his attention. Stop looking so needy, climbing into bed, trying in vain to capture a man's heart! God is so sick of "saints" coming to Him trying to get a quickie and never romancing Him for Who he is - going to church screaming, shouting and hollering, but hadn't been intimate with God all week long! Stop trying to treat God like a sugar daddy and start romancing Him with worship and praise: "I'm yours Lord...everything I've got...everything I'm not!" The God we serve, which is the God of love, demands and requires of us foreplay before He gives us what we need. Ask God to "create in you a clean heart and renew a right spirit." Stand in the word! Then wait upon the Lord to renew your strength! Pass this on to those who have found or are seeking Mr. Right. With God, All things are Possible!