Black People : A New Father's Day Tradition

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  1. OldSoul

    OldSoul Permanent Black Man PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Message To Black Dads: A New Father’s Day Tradition


    We’d like to start a new tradition for Father’s Day and are inviting all Fathers, ‘Step-Fathers’, ‘Adopted Fathers’, ‘Surrogate Fathers” and any other type of ‘Fathers’ to participate with us. Ordinarily, on ‘Father’s Day’, Dads’ are expected to receive gifts and other pleasures from their offspring. Of course, we have never gotten anywhere near the level of goodies that Mothers’ get on their day, (our ‘lobby’ isn’t as powerful as theirs), but that’s not what this is about. What we’re proposing is something entirely different. We’re starting a tradition of Dads’ giving their children a gift on Father’s Day: a photograph of themselves.
    Over the past few years, we’ve surveyed hundreds of people, especially Black Men, and found that most of those asked do not possess a single photo of their Father that was given to them by their Dad and many don’t have a photo of their Dad at all. The numbers are very different when it comes to their Mothers. Virtually all have photos of Mom. (As mentioned before, they have a much more powerful lobby).
    To be clear, this is not meant as a competition with MotherWomen, as there is no comparison to what each contributes to the offspring. It is a way to address a generational divide that has contributed to the serious isolation of Black Men from our families and communities.
    Most Dads have photos of our children which follow them from childhood to adulthood. This is an important part of documenting our lives, our histories. We know when and where the photos were taken and what was going on in their lives at that time. Our children should be able to do the same with us, for themselves and for their children, so that no matter what the situation was/is with the Mothers, the children will know something of their Fathers and pass it on. And even if the children are grown, it’s not too late to start doing this passing on, for that’s what a tradition is, a passing of elements of the culture from one generation to the next.


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    Great

    idea.....wonderful idea!!!!!!
    Now you fathers go and takes some pictures and give them to your children.
    I'm sure they'll love you even more for this special gift on your very special day
    ;) .
     
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    this can be a very positive thing and a sweet new traditional harmony
    of Father's & children .... Speaketh on brutha i'm listening
     
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    Yet another great idea brother OldSoul. Although my daughter is too young for me to participate in this for now. I know many black fathers (who are involved in their children's lives), and I will spread the word!
     
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    and again time to bring a bonding of love and pass on a piece of our lives
    to the offspring and for generation .....
     
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    I suggest we start a new father's day tradition of our wives/women & children actually giving us presents that we want and would enjoy!! Seriously this is an excellent suggestion brother OldSoul, as I said last year. In fact to increase response to this idea, I will temporarily move this thread to the open forum.
     
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    as a photographer...............

    i respect the power of the image.
    i think this is an excellent idea!

    i have done it with my son.
    i suggest everyone follow this with their respective children.
    if the child is small if should be saved for when they grow up.

    great idea!
     
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    A picture is a great way to increase the tides that bond a father to his children. As we go about our day carrying out our various duties just allow the loving thought of your children meditate on your mind and heart as I do daily.
     
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    It goes without saying, I'm not a man, but I marvel in the idea of giving photo's, that will for one, out last most gifts, yet hold life-long memories that are indeed priceless. I'm sure every man that reads this, will not only agree...but actually look forward to it.
    excellent idea, this piece was/is well worth the re-turn
     
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