I'm curious as to why men like playing mind games on women. Does it make them feel better to make someone else feel bad. The reason I'm asking is that me and the guy I'm seeing had a discussion yesterday because we had made plans. I was working and he told me that when I got off work to call him and we'd do something then. Well, I called him after I got off work and he wouldn't take my calls for two hours. At this point I became frustrated because he's done this to me before and the other times he's completely blown me off and not called me back until the next day. So when he heard the voicemail I left, which wasn't abrasive, I calmly said that I was getting tired of chasing him and it was whatever with me. He called me two hours later and tried to flip the script on me and asked me why was I thinking negative. I told him that I assumed he was blowing me off again like he had done twice before. Anyway, he started to flip the script on me and tell me that he didn't know why he was being bothered with me and my issues but since he was a nice person he was trying to be understanding. He never stated why he avoided my calls for two hours, he wasn't working. Sundays are his leisure days. It's not like I was bringing baggage, this was a reflection of something he'd done to me. He didn't apologize and didn't take responsibility for his role in the situation, instead it was all my fault that I left him a voicemail that he didn't like. In spite of it all I asked if we were still going to do something and apologized for reacting prematurly but he insisted on making me sweat it out and told me he'd have to call me back and then he called me fifteen minutes and said cool we can hang. I know he was just trying to punish me for leaving the voicemail. Why do men do this and where is the understanding. Why is so hard for some people to admitt that they contribute to the problem?