I am a woman who feels comfortable about her sexuality. However, I am also a woman who is not seeking a committed relationship as of right now. I, like most women, have "needs". And I still want certain physical things from a man, not just sex, but to be held at night, great conversation, and some eye candy. But no commitment what so ever. In the day we will not speak, unless necessary. But at night, I am his and he is mine. No drama. We are still free to see other people. No jealousy. PERIOD. Do I want my cake and eat it too? Hell yes. But like everything, comes a price, or a risk. Emotional attachment. Last night I was out, and I saw an old friend of my from high-school. And who also was out last night was the guy who is my "friend w/ benefits". To give you a little background on my "friend", he and I have had a sexual relationship going on for 3 years. We don't go out on dates we just have sex. The other night I was at his house and he told me that he sometimes feels a little bad about our situation. And it confused me what he said next. He said "I don't want to be the reason that you and another man don't work out." And I told him that if I were to ever be in a relationship with another man, him and I would no longer sleep together. So, I am not sure as to why he brought that up. I almost get the feeling that that is not what he means and he means to really say that he doesn't want to get hurt. So, last night. I could sense he did not like me hanging out with my friend from HS. He sat in his chair and kept his back to me the whole night and then left early. When I got him I received a text from him that said "Hey," and that was it. I didn't respond back because I was too tired. There have been occasions where I have seen him out with other women, and he has seen me on dates with other guys. Last year when I was in a relationship with someone, he was always questioning me about if I was still with "North Carolina" (that's the nickname he gave my bf). He has said before that he does not want to be in a relationship right now. I have expressed to him that I think he is a great man and that I hope he will one day find the right woman. I never want to hurt him, because he is more than a "friend with benefits", I actually really do care for him and have love for him, and if he has ever needed something before or even the future I will always be there for him. I just don't know what to do.