Brother Black Squared ... it is sad, to see so many Sisters not able or willing to embrace what God gave them.
But don't be too discouraged with us, for it is a long legacy of accommodating others, that we come from ... that drives this.
It's so intertwined with who we are, that we simply can't make the differentiations, and needed changes, easily or quickly.
I spent the majority of my life permed. While I've not wore wigs / weaves, it all comes from the same place I think. If it were not for this community, Sisters and Brothers that talked of loving their own selves, totally, completely, naturally ... i probably would still be permed. It NEVER came to my mind prior to this community, the discussions that have taken place here. Once I did begin to think on it, mull it over inside myself, it was still some years before I could actually do it ... cut off all my permed hair ... and go natural. It's almost like cutting off an arm, with the exception that the hair might grow back. It's rooted deep in us, oftentimes being introduced by our very own Mothers, which legitimizes it immediately. It's a very hard current to swim against.
It's just one of the manifestations we see, from the conditioning put on our people.
Black Men killing each other every night, is another.
That's why I love this community, continue to put all I have in it, for it has helped me see things differently.
And I know, if it can help me, it can help others too.
We just have to be patient with each other, recognizing it's a personal growth for each, while yearning for the collective success we hope for.
Love You!
Destee