I'm a 27 year old woman who's very accomplished. I have my own business and hold two bachelors degrees. My dilemma is that I met a man a year ago who I became friends with that I knew had an interest in me. We decided to take things slowly, and I have to admit that he was completely honest with me about his life. He was very respectful because he knew me before I knew him and thought that I was a very together woman who was independent and strong, and knows what she wants. It was very nice to be with him because he was very sweet and genuine My only problem is that he has a young child with another woman!!!! This is a hard situation for me because he and I are now engaged, but I don't know if I can deal with his past. There were things that transpired between us in the beginning of the relationship when we weren't serious that made me uneasy and develop mistrust such as: He stayed in the same house with his baby mamma when his mother came to visit for Mother's Day because his mother was there. Also, before I came in the pic he allowed his baby mamma to occupy one of his properties for a short time, but she stayed there for a time while we began to become more serious and he was paying half of the mortgage along with the other investor. He did this because he invests in property and had to have someone reside there. Yeah right!!!! I'm beginning to hate him for this and his decisions, and am starting to overwork my mind and despise him immensely. I feel I'm very accomplished and don't want to be critical, but I lived my life on a certain standard which he didn't. I know that he loves me, but sometimes I just want to stay with him to use him and then leave when I find a "childless" man who is established. I have grown to hate the situation, and don't know if I'll ever accept the child, and me dealing with the baby mamma is out of the question. Although they're over I hate I have to deal with them for another 15 yrs. However apart of me feels that he is very honest and and can't help that this woman was insecure and desperate to be with him at all cost instead of waiting for a proposal like me. Also, he was young and was immature and stupid too. Any advice will help. I'm tortured by my thoughts!!!!