Black Relationships : 9 QUESTIONS BEFORE YOU SAY I DO

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  1. dandan

    dandan Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Being in love makes people get all moochie-moochie and they forget sometimes to address serious questions,that could prevent some issues in their future.
    Most of us don’t know it ,but money problems are one of the leading cause of divorce.

    An article in the Wall Street Journal puts forth 9 money questions you should ask before getting married:

    # What are your financial assets and liabilities?
    # How do you use debt?
    # What is your money history?
    # Do we need a prenup?
    # What are your financial aspirations?
    # What are your career expectations?
    # How do you propose we divide financial duties?
    # Will we operate from one checkbook or three?
    # Do you have a basic understanding of money?


    http://www.getyahustleon.com/2006/12/24/nine-questions-before-you-say-i-do/
     
  2. $$RICH$$

    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    With this being the root to many breakups
    I found that money is needed but not the core to have a strong relationship
    these are some very good question to ask and know about before (I DO )
    there are a few i wouldn't ask or strongly didn't care about .

    Thankz for sharing this trend of question one should spring forth with !
     
  3. Joyce

    Joyce Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Here's 9 mo kwestions ta ax...:tongue:

    1. What are your moral strengths?

    2. Have you ever been in trouble with the law?

    3. Would you please go get tested for sexual diseases?

    4. Who all dun been in your draws?

    5. Are you addicted to anything I need to know about?

    6. How do you handle stress...by working your body or beating one?

    7. Are there any genetic probs that run in your family that may affect us?

    8. Do you have a sense of responsibility towards your community or is it all about you?

    9. Where does God fit in the scheme of things with you?
     
  4. monet1027

    monet1027 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Go Head Sistas...........

    Let's get a questionaire going!!!

    I agree with dandan that we often get caught-up in the romanticism of marriage. Let us remember they call marriage an institution for a reason--nuff said 'bout that....................

    There are things you need to discuss and know before you pledge your life to someone. With the divorce rate being what it is--I assume these discussions aren't happening.

    Maybe we need to revisit arranged marriages. There is no pretense of love and devotion, it's a deal between 2 families that believe this match will be best for both families. Period.
     
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    oldiesman Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    9 questions...

    haaaa,nine?heck my wife just asked one...do you want my daddy to use that shotgun?
     
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    Angela22 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    :lol:
     
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    Angela22 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I'ono bout dat.

    I don't completely shun the idea, but nowadays, I can't say I'm fully on board.
     
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    Gracious Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Joyce ... I'm rite witcha' my sista'!!!!

    Yeah ... "all things financial" can start the conversation ... BUT ... THEM 9 mo kwestions ta ax...:tongue: you gave, speak directly to a person's PHYSICAL ... AND ... SPIRITUAL being ... WELL-being!!!

    Thank you ... bless you!!!:)
     
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    Don't forget to add one of the most important: "Do you have any family members who are always broke and will therefore put the bite on you (since we're getting married, now US) on a regular basis?

    KM
     
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    BLAQ LOVE POURAHTREE Nefertum Husia Shayheh MEMBER

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