Absolutely not. There is no way a spouse or partner should be looking at their spouse/partner emails; period!
Its like this - if one of the spouses suspect the other is cheating then its time to ask because once a switch is turned on (the question) - the light comes after it n one way or the other. My ex wanted to know if I was cheating after reading all of those "signs of a cheating man" b/s that women find on the internet titled "is your man cheating?" or something like that. Instead of asking me she decided to do her own investigating and when she came up empty handed and I found out about it - I DESPISED HER*
She went through my emails (just writing this is getting me heated), followed me going to work and coming home and it wasn't because I gave her reason to think otherwise. It was her interest in those ***#@$ magazines. It was her going through my emails that let me know what she was doing - had I not been paying attention to my emails I wouldn't have found out about all the other stuff she was doing. Her questioning me didn't even let me know what she was doing because I figured if you have a question then the normal thing to do is ask but again she started naming people she shouldn't have known (which were business associates)
1.) Its total disrespect -
2.) Lack of trust - when the trust factor is gone and someone stoops to that level then they pretty much destroyed their relationship or its a matter of time before that relationship is going out the door - especially if s/he find out about what you are doing or you find out what they've been doing.
3.) disrespect of individuality - You are daring to say that your partner does not have his or her own individuality or privacy; period. Its horrible to think that there is nothing wrong with such foolishness - which is a total disrespect to you or your partner. If you ask the question and if there is in fact something going on - the question is the key to the answer - all one has to do is use the key/question - and the door will be open eventually even if they try to block the door with lies - it will eventually be flung open. Invasion of privacy - will kill a relationship as fast as it is started!!!
4.) Sneaky - personally I don't like sneaky people around because you never know what they have up their sleeves. He or she could be stealing hair from your brushes, burying draws in the backyard, blood in the spaghetti, love potion drops in your mouth while your asleep, etc ... and you have no way of protecting yourself. If someone is willing to break the trust by being sneaky - in my opinion he or she is not to be trusted; period!!! Going through my emails without my permission is breaking my trust and is being sneaky as h!!!
A woman or man is going to do what they are going to do and we can't stop it no matter how much we depend upon the wish factor. Nevertheless, invasion of privacy will break a relationship up just as fast as cheating (at least in my world) - & when I found out what my wife was doing after 10 years of marriage (she had been doing it all alone) I stayed for another 3 (4 my kids) but I was distant and she felt it. I wouldn't even sleep in the same room with her because I was disgust just by the sight of her. I mean we are divorced now - and coo and all but just the thought of those actions - made me wish I knew I could send her butt to prison because I most-likely would have as heated I was and am now thinking about it.
As far as the video goes - that women was actually violated - her privacy was stripped from her; period. Her past, and who she talks to is her business - but had dude keep an open line of communication with his wife - she would have been talking to him instead of an abusive Ex. She needs to get some physiological help for - turning to her butt beater {abused syndrome} - but at the same time - you don't put your woman on a strictly email communication diet either. really????!!!!
With that being said - *H* naw - its not right going through a partner or spouse email. I like the idea of him going to jail for it - which is how much I despise the act - yet at the same time - I KNOW the ramifications that we will all face if he does go to jail. Our internet rights as we know it especially giving the wikileaks situation - will be no longer and this is just another situation which gives them ammunition to fight with in order to take our internet freedoms. If they do that then site where we are able to freely express will be gone after a certain period of time - including Destee....
Nye
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