Black People : 23 Things To Never Say To A Childfree Woman

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  1. legit-writer

    legit-writer Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    LOL! I have heard most of these. Number 15 is what I have heard a lot, and I have never taken that as something that I wouldn't like to hear. I have heard numerous people say something is wrong with me, but when I hear that I would make a great mom...it makes me feel good. Shallow, but I like it. Number 6 is something that was said to me once by a man. I was in a hospital with a friend who had just delivered a baby...she asked me if I wanted to hold him. I was like, no...I'm cool. You could feel all of the air that had been sucked out of the room, everyone turned to look at me. Finally, the silence got so uncomfortable for me that I said, "I'm not really a baby kind of woman." The silence didn't let up. Her father looked at me and smiled and said,"I get it, but I know you, when you find the right man...your outlook will shift a little." I just looked at him and smiled, and thought for a moment...maybe he is right. I didn't feel accused or looked down on, he was the only male in that room, and he was the one to alleviate the stress I was feeling from all of the shocked and disapproving eyes.
     
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    I can understand why women who have no children wouldn't want to hear these, but I think it's quite normal for people to question and comment on it, since naturally, people are meant to continue their bloodline. And women being the more nurturing by nature, it comes across as very odd and seems to be going against what men and women do to keep the world going.

    Again, I understand why women don't want to hear it because it come across as insulting toward their own personal decision, but I totally get why people feel a need to comment on it. Though, I've never done so myself, and have never had anyone say that to me; they do seem surprised that I haven't had any children yet. I mean, I'm 23, but I guess that's old for some. :10500:
     
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    hmmm lets face it babies are bald toothless doubly incontinent they never have anythin intrestin to say and suffer from that turretes thing where they have to scream all the time they expect you to do everythin never pick up the check they want to take so much stuff everywhere you have to swap your compact for an suv and burn through your money faster than a night in a casino :11500:

    seriously though.... im not much of a baby person at the moment but somethin tells me as soon as you realize that that stomach aint down to too much krispy kream things probably change - i may even turn into one of those moms who makes you sit down to look at 500 near identical fotos of junior whether you wanna see them or not:SuN033:
     
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    Wait, why don't they want to hear it? Is it because they feel some of these things maybe true, so they don't want to think about it? Also, some of these things are true, like #4. This is just a fact, a woman with kids has more to worry about than a woman with no kids. A childless woman only has herself to worry about, she can skip meals, or just eat a power bar and be fine. But a woman with kids does not have that option. I know when we were struggling, I made sure my kids had food. I sold/pawned many thing s to make sure that refrigerator had food in it. I even lied and said i ate, just to make sure my wife and kids didn't go hungry. Those days are long gone, but I haven't forgotten them, and i make sure they stay gone.

    To make it short, IMO, nothing feels worst than opening your refrigerator, and see there is nothing to feed your kids that are hungry.

    Peace!
     
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    How dare you say I was bald...:SuN049:

    Peace!
     
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    #24 ... girl I want you to have my babies
     
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    #10 is plain accurate!
     
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