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My mother had always taught me to be proud of my features etc., but I didn't feel self conscious until high school. I always had a big butt and I would walk down the hall in the mornings and the guys would be lined up in the hall and they'd have something to say. I would wear long shirts etc...

I too had to end a long term friendship. I was the same as far as naive, but deep down my intuition always told me differently. About every 3 mos. we would end up falling out because she would just start saying spiteful things or insulting me on purpose, but acting as though she didn't know...

Colorful experiences I have two instances both with my neices, when they were real young. My niece was 3 years old and I took her to the grocery store. The cashier, a white lady,was commenting on how cute she was and handed my neice a pack of m&m's and told me it was on her. So my neice...

I too have heard that the real name for Africa was Alkebulan. I'm not sure if I read it in a book called "Africa The Mother of Western Civilization" I'm almost positive that's the name of the book. I read it about 7 years ago, and loaned it out and didn't get it back. The name has been...

Thank You! I'm going to do a search for the next Book Fest. I met a woman at this flea market selling African art and I gave her a copy. I saw her a month later and she said she had taken it to South Carolina and read it to parts of her family and they loved it as well. She then referred me...

I have written a children's book for African American children. My dream is to be a writer, however, it's hard to stay focused and continue to write, when my source of income depends on a job in which it gets harder everyday to even feel passion with life's daily struggles. I wrote the...

Well said! (smile)

It is so refreshing to hear you say that. Honestly, I've relocated away from family and friends over a year ago, for my job. I never realized how important the circle of sisters and brothers that I was with before affected my life. We are all on the same page regarding positivity, our people...

I think we all fell into a deep sleep and thought the fight was over. A sister referenced the Willie Lynch document in which a slave master held a meeting with slaveholders in Va. Apparently they couldn't continue to kill the slaves, because their was a massive amount of dead bodies, and a big...

Yes, I think you are right in de-programming ourselves and I believe we have to take the time and reprogram our minds. Sisters and brothers as well. If we all understood that we only use 10% of our brain, we don't understand how powerful our mind is. Our mind is like a computer. What we...

I think nice guys and girls finish last, because, everyone doesn't deserve to be treated nice. People don't understand relationship dynamics. Usually someone who is being really nice and showering you with a lot of attention can seem overwhelming. It is obvious that they need this attention...

I guess everyone has their definition of what a strong black woman is or isn't. When I say black woman are still strong and deserve the title it has nothing to do with them caring about the approval of white people or letting others put them down. Yes, we have feelings and deserve to be...

Loved this post!! You are so right. Our mind has been programmed for destruction of ourselves. We attract what we believe and we have been taught what to believe and accepted it. We first have to love ourselves, eliminate negativity, and take responsibility for our thoughts, actions, and our...

I don't believe the term is passe or gone to far. It is black women who have practically raised this generation of children whether they are in rags or riches. We receive the same discrimanatory attitudes and practices that our brothers do, and the media subliminally devalues the importance of...