NOT TO SOUND LIKE I'M AN EXPERT ON THE TOPIC...coz i'm so far from that.
BUT...
I could go into the thing about girls having psychological issues around sex, because they were raised to believe that sex was dirty. Or, I could go deeper…saying that most women don’t know their bodies…because they’re ashamed to explore their body. the bottom line is, most women don’t orgasm because they don’t know how to explain to their mate what they need from them. i.e. when asked what they like, most women will say, “what you’re doing is fine,” because they don’t know what they like. Or, again, they don’t know how to explain it. Some women won’t explain because they don’t want the man to feel that he’s inadequate…or that she knows more than he does.
Most men will claim to be a god at sex…the master of every sexual act known to man. But, actually, men are afraid…every time they have a “first time” with a woman. The thought of not being able to satisfy that woman scares the hell out of them. THAT’S WHY THEY ASK, “what do you like?” The man that’s capable of satisfying the most women…is the man that listens to the woman’s body, as well as her words…if she can verbalize her needs. But there are lazy men out there…men who are stuck on I GOT MINE…YOU BETTA GET YOURS. And, there are lazy women out there, who feel that men are supposed to do everything, while they lay on their backs…doing nothing. THE WET BLANKET as I call them.
Mutual satisfaction, in bed, comes when both parties are concerned about the pleasure of the other…and work to make it happen. WORK. Sexual intercourse is strenuous exercise that should leave both drained, or exhilarated…both feeling that they’ve had a serious workout. If not, you’re just not doing it right.
TO ANSWER THE QUESTION:
women settle for bad sex for different reasons:
- to hold on to a man they like, in hopes of teaching him how to please her.
- they've never known good sex, so they accept what they can get.
- they're afraid to question what he's doing...fearing he will walk out the door.
- they don't know how to tell him he's not doing it right.
- some women still believe that sex is about the man...and he doesn't have to satisfy her
the list goes on.
until she find it within herself to tell him what she likes, and wants done, nothing will change.