Well, what she said about her family was that her Brother would shoot anyone who tackled her in a game of football (a game that she strangely plays with men.) Which to me is insane to mention within the first hours of knowing someone. Let alone a really awkward situation.
As to looks and eats, I find it impossible not to consider. I know, for instance, that hair does not mean anything pertaining to a woman's 'consciousness,' and usually the 'naturals' are not 'race-oriented;' yet I'm a frequent protester. So in the event of going to a Korean shop for new hair, I'd comment on how Black women empower Asian communities at their own expense, then recite Malcolm's words on the subject and Garvey's. This is already unattractive, I know.
But in a sense, it's where I am reduced. I rarely see anyone already at the rightminded conception to empower his or her people. A 'down' Sister orders Chinese Food; a Natural Sister chats up White men; a Pro-Black Sister is only interested in Religious Brothers, and onward. You say "change" but you know how difficult it is to "change" another person. And what's worse, there's flaws that I have. Shikamaru mentioned how money is necessarily emotional--I would add the lack of money. Well, you can say that I'm emotional.
I mean--I have money. But I'm stingy. And what's more, the future is so uncertain for me.
In some ways, it's hard to feel qualified for a woman. What with her spendthrift and material interests compared against my stinginess and constant racial activism.
But now I'm just writing out tear drops.
