Women are the only people being chastised.
But it may have to do with your charisma.
For instance, if your breath is bad, I can tell you with charisma: "Brother, you might want to brush that tongue a bit more" or without charisma, "How your feet reach my nose so quick? Your breath is kicking!"
Suppose that you were exclaiming "SAY NO TO MOOKIE!!!," firstly it's judgmental on the part of the woman's partner, and it's an insult to the woman who does not see her man as "mookie" or who is dealing with the pains already.
But if you say, "Beautiful woman, you deserve a faithful man who will always be there for your children," everything seems less critical, less judgmental and more elevating.
It's kind of about sensitivity really.
Like, say you have a wife, and I'm sure that if you do, she's an excellent example of an African woman, but bare with me. If I say, "Why are you always dating TAMEEKA?" you'll see how that can be offensive, even if your woman wasn't as good as she is. 'Cause you might say, sure my woman has flaws but she's not TAMEEKA. Who is this to tell me that my woman is TAMEEKA?
Though for my part, I do not see why we are making fun of "Black" names. :-|