Black Relationships : Was I being outta line or was he?

[intolerant]

If he is telling you the truth then you were in the wrong.

Far as that is concerned, I think that you should have given him

The benefit of the doubt.

He apologized for not calling you--and you suggested that he was creeping.

Really, if he doesn't contact you again--he's not doing an error.

I'd tread more lightly were I you.

(Especially since you shouldn't admit this much to him.)

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Question: How would you like to be at work, struggle to call someone, finally contact them in the morning and be accused of cheating? Yup. That's what happened to him: if he's honest (according to your story).

i didnt say or was thinking in terms of cheating. it's just funny how he flies off the handle, over something small and trivial like that. a big reaction to me, really says that there is probably more to it than what he is letting on.

 

[rapunzal24]

i didnt say or was thinking in terms of cheating. it's just funny how he flies off the handle, over something small and trivial like that. a big reaction to me, really says that there is probably more to it than what he is letting on.

You might be right, I assumed the same thing but.....you can never be sure, so if it is true, it will come to the light. The big issue in my opinion is not being able to communicate something to him that makes you upset without him flying off the handle. If you don't mind me asking, does he do this often? Does he have a problem with calling you back?

 

[Asomfwaa]

i didnt say or was thinking in terms of cheating. it's just funny how he flies off the handle, over something small and trivial like that. a big reaction to me, really says that there is probably more to it than what he is letting on.

Oh--you made it seem like you suspected creeping. I feel like that might be his impression to--putting two and two together.

Personally, as a man, I can sympathize with him. Being accused of lying or cheating in short time doesn't say much about my partner's securities or confidence in me.

Hotep!

 

[MimiBelle]

You might be right, I assumed the same thing but.....you can never be sure, so if it is true, it will come to the light. The big issue in my opinion is not being able to communicate something to him that makes you upset without him flying off the handle. If you don't mind me asking, does he do this often? Does he have a problem with calling you back?

I wondered the same. I sense someone with a 'track record' and I think...that I understand the OP's thead.
Should he apologize? Can't say. I don't actually know the situation or your relationship history. Just a shot in the dark, but the situation appears similar to what other women tend to go through at times....

I've been there. When a woman is continuously being disappointed? Before long...the smallest instance of this 'behavior' can completely set you off.
Such as...a single missed phone call....
*laugh*
That's what I got out of it, anyway.

So...is it one of 'those' situations...OP? Similar to...kinda?
I get the whole 'is there something you're not telling me' comment, along these lines. It's not an issue of cheating, I see.

Ah, 'relationships'.
No, you hardly ever fight about what you're actually fighting about....*laugh*

I understand. From my end, it all stems from one (the only) pet-peeve: Don't tell me that you're going to do something and NOT do it. When a man can't be trusted to follow through...when he's constantly doing the opposite of what he knows he's supposed to.

 

[intolerant]

Oh--you made it seem like you suspected creeping. I feel like that might be his impression to--putting two and two together.

Personally, as a man, I can sympathize with him. Being accused of lying or cheating in short time doesn't say much about my partner's securities or confidence in me.

Hotep!

see you assume thats what it was, so i wonder really what that says about you.