Black Relationships : Ok, so why doesn`t she understand?

Emawk

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I told my girlfriend that I'm taking the bible more serious and we talked about what I meant. So I told her about how christmas is pagan and it has nothing to do with Christ and worshipping his birth. We talked about other pagan things to. Even the day he's born is fake (Dec 25)...Anyways now she wants to know if I want to go to a Christmas party? Huh why doesn't she take me seriously?! :confused:
 
I told my girlfriend that I'm taking the bible more serious and we talked about what I meant. So I told her about how christmas is pagan and it has nothing to do with Christ and worshipping his birth. We talked about other pagan things to. Even the day he's born is fake (Dec 25)...Anyways now she wants to know if I want to go to a Christmas party? Huh why doesn't she take me seriously?! :confused:

Peace Emawk,

Having access to information is a gift and a curse.. because once we have that information, we're not always sure what to do with it.. so we fall back on the simplest modes of analysis.. the yes/no, either/or.. good/bad mode... That said.. Christmas parties are not about Christmas.. they are just events where people get together during this time of year. Their are no christmas rituals that conflict with your beliefs at the christmas party are their? If your reasoning is that because of it's not in the bible, I can't participate, then your list of things that you cannot do must be particularly long. Birthday celebrations are not in the bible either.. neither is mothers day.. nor so many other ritual celebrations and cultural functions that you directly or indirectly participate in.. If you are truly serious about the bible, you will have to change your life completely.. where you live, how you live.. who you live with, etc.. What does the bible say about girlfriends? I'm guessing you don't want to take it that far right? so, look, if there is nothing going on at the party that conflicts with your belief system, then what really is the problem with attending the Christmas party with your girlfriend?
 
I told my girlfriend that I'm taking the bible more serious and we talked about what I meant. So I told her about how christmas is pagan and it has nothing to do with Christ and worshipping his birth. We talked about other pagan things to. Even the day he's born is fake (Dec 25)...Anyways now she wants to know if I want to go to a Christmas party? Huh why doesn't she take me seriously?! :confused:
Give her room to grow. Sometimes it is hard for us to let go of things that we have done for soooo long. Just let her know that you will not be going to the party and why. Don't make it a long drawn out speech, because you have already told her that you don't believe in Christmas.(No one likes a nag). Sometimes people believe that you can seperate the party from the meaning, and maybe this is what she is thinking. Maybe....but you have to talk to her about it. She probably doesn't see the big deal, but if it is your preference then you should give her the time and consideration to explain it to her again....if she is important to you. I am not saying to accept it, but just give her the time to accept it, it can be a big change. You know her better than I do, you will know when it is just learning to accept something, or just refusing to accept it.
 
Peace Emawk,

Having access to information is a gift and a curse.. because once we have that information, we're not always sure what to do with it.. so we fall back on the simplest modes of analysis.. the yes/no, either/or.. good/bad mode... That said.. Christmas parties are not about Christmas.. they are just events where people get together during this time of year. Their are no christmas rituals that conflict with your beliefs at the christmas party are their? If your reasoning is that because of it's not in the bible, I can't participate, then your list of things that you cannot do must be particularly long. Birthday celebrations are not in the bible either.. neither is mothers day.. nor so many other ritual celebrations and cultural functions that you directly or indirectly participate in.. If you are truly serious about the bible, you will have to change your life completely.. where you live, how you live.. who you live with, etc.. What does the bible say about girlfriends? I'm guessing you don't want to take it that far right? so, look, if there is nothing going on at the party that conflicts with your belief system, then what really is the problem with attending the Christmas party with your girlfriend?

Wow you just opened my eyes, I never thought about the whole girlfriend thing(about it in the bible). That's good point, the funny thing is I'm following a lot of things pertaining to something that alot of couples do...:D Did I say too much? Your right though about changing your life to meet the requirements of GODS book, yet I'm taking baby steps. She just pretends as if we never talked about certain things, it's getting frustrating.
 

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