Black People : I'm sorry but it has to be said

[legit-writer]

If after so many years of being a person's friend, being there to listen to them gripe and complain about the problems they are facing in their lives, they still treat you like you're a nobody, express no gratitude whatsoever for listening to them complain like a ungrateful brat and don't really care to see you happy, let alone are interested in what's going on with you, it's time that you stop caring, and start ignoring them, the next time they decide to hit you up, because it's obvious you are a convenience to them and they only hit you up if they have nothing better to do or bored and have a negative attitude, and never in a good mood when you do talk to them. I mean what's the point in them hitting you up if they have such a negative vibe about them? You don't want that rubbing off on you. Let them be, and maybe they will realize how crappy of a friend they were and grow up, and stop being so self absorbed, and start stepping outside of their bubble and show concern for you, and then again maybe not and if not, that's their loss! That's Real Talk, people!

 

[NyneElementz]

If after so many years of being a person's friend, being there to listen to them gripe and complain about the problems they are facing in their lives, they still treat you like you're a nobody, express no gratitude whatsoever for listening to them complain like a ungrateful brat and don't really care to see you happy, let alone are interested in what's going on with you, it's time that you stop caring, and start ignoring them, the next time they decide to hit you up, because it's obvious you are a convenience to them and they only hit you up if they have nothing better to do or bored and have a negative attitude, and never in a good mood when you do talk to them. I mean what's the point in them hitting you up if they have such a negative vibe about them? You don't want that rubbing off on you. Let them be, and maybe they will realize how crappy of a friend they were and grow up, and stop being so self absorbed, and start stepping outside of their bubble and show concern for you, and then again maybe not and if not, that's their loss! That's Real Talk, people!

It's the truth. Not to be anal, but we all have our own problems. Hearing someone else's problems all the time will only add problems on top of our problems. And if the only time a person wants to contact me is when they need to complain, that's not a friend. Proverbs 17:17 says it plainly, "A friend loves at all times and a brother is born for adversity." I don't mind praying with a friend when he calls me to ask me to pray about his financial situation, but I don't need a person to tell me how hopeless they believe their financial situation is and won't allow me to pray with them or help them with their budget. Complaints do not bring solutions. When I call my friends or my brothers in faith, I try my best not to complain. I might ask for advice or for a prayer, but I know that if I do nothing but complain, they will do the intelligent and right thing - cut me off.

I know to some of you, that will seem cold and unfriendly, but I'll leave you with this:

Giving an alcoholic a drink does not help him. If you want to help him, smash his bottle. Then pray that others who see him will smash any future bottles of liquor that he purchases in front of him. He may not like you, but you have shown him what he needs to do. When your prayer is answered and he is rid of his drinking problem, he will understand, then love you for what you did for him.

 

[legit-writer]

It's the truth. Not to be anal, but we all have our own problems. Hearing someone else's problems all the time will only add problems on top of our problems. And if the only time a person wants to contact me is when they need to complain, that's not a friend. Proverbs 17:17 says it plainly, "A friend loves at all times and a brother is born for adversity." I don't mind praying with a friend when he calls me to ask me to pray about his financial situation, but I don't need a person to tell me how hopeless they believe their financial situation is and won't allow me to pray with them or help them with their budget. Complaints do not bring solutions. When I call my friends or my brothers in faith, I try my best not to complain. I might ask for advice or for a prayer, but I know that if I do nothing but complain, they will do the intelligent and right thing - cut me off.

I know to some of you, that will seem cold and unfriendly, but I'll leave you with this:

Giving an alcoholic a drink does not help him. If you want to help him, smash his bottle. Then pray that others who see him will smash any future bottles of liquor that he purchases in front of him. He may not like you, but you have shown him what he needs to do. When your prayer is answered and he is rid of his drinking problem, he will understand, then love you for what you did for him.

i mean if they are not going to do something about what they are complaining about then really i don't think they have a right to complain. and it really bothers me that every time this particular person I'm talking about hits me up, they are never in a good mood. I have done what I could to cheer them up (my nature) and they still have a negative and ungrateful attitude. here's an example:
Them: hey
Me: hey how are you?
Them: Would be doing better if I had a job. I have a job interview tomorrow
Me: Oh really? I wish you luck. I am sure you will get it!
Them: But {insert petty complaint here} so I don't know if I will take that job or not
Me: It's better than nothing
Them: Yeah

***a few weeks later after they done already got hired and everything***

Them: hey. I got the job!
Me: congrats!!!
Them: yeah but I don't like it because {insert petty complaints here}
Me: Why don't you talk to the supervisor or find another job?
Them: {making excuses of why they can't talk to the supervisor or find another job}

I hope you get my drift... stuff like that really ticks me off, im sorry.

 

[info-moetry]

If after so many years of being a person's friend, being there to listen to them gripe and complain about the problems they are facing in their lives, they still treat you like you're a nobody, express no gratitude whatsoever for listening to them complain like a ungrateful brat and don't really care to see you happy, let alone are interested in what's going on with you, it's time that you stop caring, and start ignoring them, the next time they decide to hit you up, because it's obvious you are a convenience to them and they only hit you up if they have nothing better to do or bored and have a negative attitude, and never in a good mood when you do talk to them. I mean what's the point in them hitting you up if they have such a negative vibe about them? You don't want that rubbing off on you. Let them be, and maybe they will realize how crappy of a friend they were and grow up, and stop being so self absorbed, and start stepping outside of their bubble and show concern for you, and then again maybe not and if not, that's their loss! That's Real Talk, people!

peace

I know some people like that and i usually interrupt them right when they start to go in and say "i've been in a good mood all day, so maybe i'll talk to you later". Trust me, they will think twice before calling you while they're in a bad mood again.

People like this are too self-absorbed to care about anyone else. These people actually love being in bad moods and do their best to create those moods, if they don't readily offer themselves. It is that energy that drives them. 'the disagreables', if you will! They feed off of negative vibes and thee most powerful blast of energy comes from the positive people they know if they can get them to listen and feed into all of their complaining and negativity...

Them: hey. I got the job!
Me: congrats!!!
Them: yeah but I don't like it because {insert petty complaints here}
Me: Why don't you talk to the supervisor or find another job?
Them: {making excuses of why they can't talk to the supervisor or find another job}

I hope you get my drift... stuff like that really ticks me off, im sorry

- see what i mean!

 

[Chevron Dove]

If after so many years of being a person's friend, being there to listen to them gripe and complain about the problems they are facing in their lives, they still treat you like you're a nobody, express no gratitude whatsoever for listening to them complain like a ungrateful brat and don't really care to see you happy, let alone are interested in what's going on with you, it's time that you stop caring, and start ignoring them, the next time they decide to hit you up, because it's obvious you are a convenience to them and they only hit you up if they have nothing better to do or bored and have a negative attitude, and never in a good mood when you do talk to them. I mean what's the point in them hitting you up if they have such a negative vibe about them? You don't want that rubbing off on you. Let them be, and maybe they will realize how crappy of a friend they were and grow up, and stop being so self absorbed, and start stepping outside of their bubble and show concern for you, and then again maybe not and if not, that's their loss! That's Real Talk, people!

I heard this talk show once and this reminds of what the therapist called, 'a toxic friendship'. And I think that those kind of people that don't know the value of giving and sharing, and are users. I wonder sometimes too, if they really know they are like that or if it is because they've been treated badly and are repeating the behavior. Anyway, that therapist said to get away from people like that because they actually use you as a crutch to support their egos.